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<blockquote data-quote="busywend" data-source="post: 62598" data-attributes="member: 391"><p>Nobody is telling you to do anything. I hope you do not think we are coming down hard on you for staying. Not the case. I would think you were a saint to stay - AND I would understand you wanting to stay. I think we just wanted to give you the been there done that experience. Don't forget we are warrior moms, but we are beaten down, too. Some days we wish to be able to run ourselves. </p><p></p><p>So, assuming you are committed to the man and his children. What to expect? Lots of doctor appointments. Lots of calls and meetings from/at school. My difficult child did not show her true self at school until the 2nd half of 6th grade. Before that she was loved by all teachers - just very active and disruptive, but never insubordinate until 6th grade. </p><p>Reading up on mental health. Trying all different kinds of parenting - once you find something helpful it only lasts for so long (less than 2 months usually). Feeling stressed to even take a vacation. Maybe not taking them due to the stress level it creates - for everyone. Perhaps having strangers in your home - counselors, CPS, in home aids. </p><p>Lots of prescriptions trials and errors - the errors can be scary. </p><p></p><p>Can your future stepson live a normal life? Normal is hard to define. Can he be a law-abiding, tax paying citizen? Yes. Will his life always be hard and perhaps always cause drama in your life - yes. Even his kids - your grands could end up difficult to deal with and enjoy. </p><p></p><p>I do not mean to sound dark and twisty (Grey's Anatomy fan?) but this is reality. Having money could be helpful - that is something else that adds to my daily stress. So, at least you will not have that problem.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="busywend, post: 62598, member: 391"] Nobody is telling you to do anything. I hope you do not think we are coming down hard on you for staying. Not the case. I would think you were a saint to stay - AND I would understand you wanting to stay. I think we just wanted to give you the been there done that experience. Don't forget we are warrior moms, but we are beaten down, too. Some days we wish to be able to run ourselves. So, assuming you are committed to the man and his children. What to expect? Lots of doctor appointments. Lots of calls and meetings from/at school. My difficult child did not show her true self at school until the 2nd half of 6th grade. Before that she was loved by all teachers - just very active and disruptive, but never insubordinate until 6th grade. Reading up on mental health. Trying all different kinds of parenting - once you find something helpful it only lasts for so long (less than 2 months usually). Feeling stressed to even take a vacation. Maybe not taking them due to the stress level it creates - for everyone. Perhaps having strangers in your home - counselors, CPS, in home aids. Lots of prescriptions trials and errors - the errors can be scary. Can your future stepson live a normal life? Normal is hard to define. Can he be a law-abiding, tax paying citizen? Yes. Will his life always be hard and perhaps always cause drama in your life - yes. Even his kids - your grands could end up difficult to deal with and enjoy. I do not mean to sound dark and twisty (Grey's Anatomy fan?) but this is reality. Having money could be helpful - that is something else that adds to my daily stress. So, at least you will not have that problem. [/QUOTE]
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