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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 648403" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>I doubt he's just smoking weed. He's telling you it's weed, which along with his behaviors tells me it's more than weed. </p><p></p><p>I got so lost in your story and responses that I sort of lost track of whether you were asking for advice or not. If you are, I would advise you to not "lend" him anything. If you want to give him money you should do that but you're never going to see it again. </p><p></p><p>Our son M told us (and therapists and guidance counselors, etc.) that he wanted to become a pirate or a gangster after HS graduation. He could con trusting adults into most anything and come through with none of his promises. He was couch surfing for 6 - 7 years. I believe that my father has left him a pittance on the condition that he have no contact with us (my father was pretty twisted), so we won't be hearing from him again for years, I think.</p><p></p><p>I wish I had some real advice for you. It's really hard when they're that age. They're not kids and they're not really adults. All I can say is that deep down you know what kind of a person he is. If he weren't your son, what would you do for him? That's what <em>I</em> would do for him. Help him help himself if he asks, but I wouldn't give him anything but a referral to a clinic. That's just me.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 648403, member: 99"] I doubt he's just smoking weed. He's telling you it's weed, which along with his behaviors tells me it's more than weed. I got so lost in your story and responses that I sort of lost track of whether you were asking for advice or not. If you are, I would advise you to not "lend" him anything. If you want to give him money you should do that but you're never going to see it again. Our son M told us (and therapists and guidance counselors, etc.) that he wanted to become a pirate or a gangster after HS graduation. He could con trusting adults into most anything and come through with none of his promises. He was couch surfing for 6 - 7 years. I believe that my father has left him a pittance on the condition that he have no contact with us (my father was pretty twisted), so we won't be hearing from him again for years, I think. I wish I had some real advice for you. It's really hard when they're that age. They're not kids and they're not really adults. All I can say is that deep down you know what kind of a person he is. If he weren't your son, what would you do for him? That's what [I]I[/I] would do for him. Help him help himself if he asks, but I wouldn't give him anything but a referral to a clinic. That's just me. [/QUOTE]
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