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<blockquote data-quote="Ehlena" data-source="post: 202165" data-attributes="member: 6097"><p>Thank you so much for your advice and for your welcome. It's so nice to know that I am not alone.</p><p> </p><p>We are taking him to a psychiatrist. We've done the clearing out the room thing. Time to do it again, I think.</p><p> </p><p>I know he is capable. This is the worst part for us. His teacher says his writing ability is above and beyond the fifth grade level. When he wants to, he picks things up really quickly. We can't seem to find out what makes him tick. Punish him, and he's so angry he doesn't care. Dangle a carrot, and he thinks you should have given it to him already, so he won't do anything to try and get it. When the teacher asked him about what sort of things would motivate him to work, he named things that we have already offered as reward.</p><p> </p><p>And he has a really hard time with instructions. Sometimes we have to have him read them out loud, and sometimes he has to do so a few times before he understands what they're asking. Conversely, his reading comprehension is fine. I don't understand it.</p><p> </p><p>I'll mention the full Neuro-psychiatric evaluation to FI - he'll be the one taking difficult child in to the doctor's in 11 days.</p><p> </p><p>I'm not sure the details, but I know he lived with his grandpa while FI was going to school, and he was put on a few different ADHD medications. None seemed to work, and one in particular made him aggressive towards others. Another reason for us to be wary of medications.</p><p> </p><p>I know his bio-mom was diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder as part of the court evaluation for custody - anything else, I don't know. She did do meth while difficult child was in the womb. Possibly smoked and drank - we don't know.</p><p> </p><p>I'll grab that book this weekend, any other recommendations? I'm a speed reader, and gosh, anything that could possibly help I am open to. I'll pass it on to FI as well. I'll check out the website, too. Thank you!</p><p> </p><p>One of the things that bothered me at the parent-teacher meeting was that difficult child claimed he did not feel loved, and that he didn't know what it felt like to be loved. Ouch. Straight through the heart. I told him later that he shouldn't dare think that we don't love him, and he seemed a little remorseful, but ouch ouch ouch.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ehlena, post: 202165, member: 6097"] Thank you so much for your advice and for your welcome. It's so nice to know that I am not alone. We are taking him to a psychiatrist. We've done the clearing out the room thing. Time to do it again, I think. I know he is capable. This is the worst part for us. His teacher says his writing ability is above and beyond the fifth grade level. When he wants to, he picks things up really quickly. We can't seem to find out what makes him tick. Punish him, and he's so angry he doesn't care. Dangle a carrot, and he thinks you should have given it to him already, so he won't do anything to try and get it. When the teacher asked him about what sort of things would motivate him to work, he named things that we have already offered as reward. And he has a really hard time with instructions. Sometimes we have to have him read them out loud, and sometimes he has to do so a few times before he understands what they're asking. Conversely, his reading comprehension is fine. I don't understand it. I'll mention the full Neuro-psychiatric evaluation to FI - he'll be the one taking difficult child in to the doctor's in 11 days. I'm not sure the details, but I know he lived with his grandpa while FI was going to school, and he was put on a few different ADHD medications. None seemed to work, and one in particular made him aggressive towards others. Another reason for us to be wary of medications. I know his bio-mom was diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder as part of the court evaluation for custody - anything else, I don't know. She did do meth while difficult child was in the womb. Possibly smoked and drank - we don't know. I'll grab that book this weekend, any other recommendations? I'm a speed reader, and gosh, anything that could possibly help I am open to. I'll pass it on to FI as well. I'll check out the website, too. Thank you! One of the things that bothered me at the parent-teacher meeting was that difficult child claimed he did not feel loved, and that he didn't know what it felt like to be loved. Ouch. Straight through the heart. I told him later that he shouldn't dare think that we don't love him, and he seemed a little remorseful, but ouch ouch ouch. [/QUOTE]
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