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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 202181" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>Hi Ehlena, Welcome.</p><p> </p><p>So sorry you're going through this. Boy, he's a handful. </p><p> </p><p>It really looks like he's gotten some heavy drug exposure in utero, and with-his early upbringing the way it was, I can see why he thinks he isn't loved. (I'm assuming you didn't come into the picture until he was school age?) I don't think he's thinking about you and your fiance when he says that. I don't think he knows deep down where the feeling stems from, but it may be his bio mom. Try not to take it personally. So many of our kids, bio or not, say that and truly feel it (especially when you're mad at them) and when they see our reactions they can learn to use it against us. </p><p>My difficult child has threatened to move in with-his bmom several times and I just shrug and hand him the phone. Eventually, the threat passes (ours hasn't done it in several mo's) but you go through many nights crying behind a closed door where he can't see you. My only advice is to please develop rhino skin and do not let it affect you.</p><p> </p><p>I know you can't wait for the tests and results! We're re-testing again in 2 wks. and seeing a psychiatrist on Tues. ... I know my expectations are way too high.</p><p> </p><p>Take care.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 202181, member: 3419"] Hi Ehlena, Welcome. So sorry you're going through this. Boy, he's a handful. It really looks like he's gotten some heavy drug exposure in utero, and with-his early upbringing the way it was, I can see why he thinks he isn't loved. (I'm assuming you didn't come into the picture until he was school age?) I don't think he's thinking about you and your fiance when he says that. I don't think he knows deep down where the feeling stems from, but it may be his bio mom. Try not to take it personally. So many of our kids, bio or not, say that and truly feel it (especially when you're mad at them) and when they see our reactions they can learn to use it against us. My difficult child has threatened to move in with-his bmom several times and I just shrug and hand him the phone. Eventually, the threat passes (ours hasn't done it in several mo's) but you go through many nights crying behind a closed door where he can't see you. My only advice is to please develop rhino skin and do not let it affect you. I know you can't wait for the tests and results! We're re-testing again in 2 wks. and seeing a psychiatrist on Tues. ... I know my expectations are way too high. Take care. [/QUOTE]
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