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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 616167" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hi. I'm so sorry for your hurting mommy heart. Been there.</p><p></p><p>It would help if you posted on Parent Emeritus, which is the forum for children who are legal adults. It is way different than parenting younger kids. We have minimal control over our adult kids (and, yes, eighteen is legally an adult). In fact, you can not control this young adult in any way except to make sure you don't enable her and allow her to live in your house unless she follows your rules. You can not make her leave her boyfriend, but you can cut out your monetary support completely and make Mr. Wonderful pay the bills. She does not need a car on your dime.</p><p></p><p>Since your daughter is probably messing with drugs, although you have not yet caught her red handed, she needs to be the one to decide to get her life together. There is nothing you can do to stop her self-destruction. The stealing is about drug use. She is stealing to buy drugs. I know it hurts to hear it. I know you will first go into denial, like I did, but that's why they steal from us. YOU should press charges if you can to put a stop to it. She has no right to steal from you. If you allow her in your house, you'd better lock up all your valuables because it will happen again. Also, hide your credit cards and cash.</p><p></p><p>My guess is she is not going to school. Make her prove she is. I'd cut off the cell phone, internet, etc. It's time to show her you mean business.</p><p></p><p>If you hop over to Parent Emeritus, t here are article on detachment, which does NOT mean you no longer love your child...it is all explained there.</p><p></p><p>Regardless of her story, she is out of your legal reach and you STILL are entitled to a happy, fulfilling life, enjoying the loved ones you have who respect you and make you feel good, the hobbies you enjoy, the friends you like, and the other activities you like to do. You should not put your life on hold for this child.</p><p></p><p>See you hopefully over at Parent Emeritus. We all have over eighteeners there.</p><p></p><p>Hugs and hope you post more.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 616167, member: 1550"] Hi. I'm so sorry for your hurting mommy heart. Been there. It would help if you posted on Parent Emeritus, which is the forum for children who are legal adults. It is way different than parenting younger kids. We have minimal control over our adult kids (and, yes, eighteen is legally an adult). In fact, you can not control this young adult in any way except to make sure you don't enable her and allow her to live in your house unless she follows your rules. You can not make her leave her boyfriend, but you can cut out your monetary support completely and make Mr. Wonderful pay the bills. She does not need a car on your dime. Since your daughter is probably messing with drugs, although you have not yet caught her red handed, she needs to be the one to decide to get her life together. There is nothing you can do to stop her self-destruction. The stealing is about drug use. She is stealing to buy drugs. I know it hurts to hear it. I know you will first go into denial, like I did, but that's why they steal from us. YOU should press charges if you can to put a stop to it. She has no right to steal from you. If you allow her in your house, you'd better lock up all your valuables because it will happen again. Also, hide your credit cards and cash. My guess is she is not going to school. Make her prove she is. I'd cut off the cell phone, internet, etc. It's time to show her you mean business. If you hop over to Parent Emeritus, t here are article on detachment, which does NOT mean you no longer love your child...it is all explained there. Regardless of her story, she is out of your legal reach and you STILL are entitled to a happy, fulfilling life, enjoying the loved ones you have who respect you and make you feel good, the hobbies you enjoy, the friends you like, and the other activities you like to do. You should not put your life on hold for this child. See you hopefully over at Parent Emeritus. We all have over eighteeners there. Hugs and hope you post more. [/QUOTE]
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