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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 616537" data-attributes="member: 4152"><p>Hello. We have an adopted, now young adult daughter. who has,bipolar illness. It has contributed to over 20 years of undue stress and grief in the household. She is a good person, but........</p><p>I do not and will not, tolerate certain things. This includes: breaking the law, thievery, being rude to me or members of our family or violence. We paid for private school, private tutors, a psychologist, a psychiatrist, special medications and everything we could think of to help her, her entire life. It helped, a teeny, tiny bit. Very minimally. We helped her get on SSI (Disability). She is very ill, and at best, she might be able to work a few hours a week....so she absolutely needs assistance. She moved out at age,19. Our home became much more peaceful. We had to set up other types of boundaries, like no calling before or after certain hours. It took a long time for her to "get" that we REALLY mean this. She knows that is she is rude to us, she will NOT hear from us until she decides to change her tune. We do help her with some things, but very very minimally.</p><p>Some thoughts: consider if she can really handle a full time job. If she can't, keep SSI, at least in the back of your mind as a possibility.</p><p>See if she will see a counselor to get help for a variety of issues...most importantly, getting away from this guy. Consider paying for this. Well worth the money.</p><p>Set up boundaries...what you will tolerate from her and won't. If she is rude to you, consider hanging up the phone and telling her to call back when she feels better and can speak more appropriately.</p><p>Consider getting some help for yourself, if you haven't done so already. A counselor or support group. Co-dependent s no more is good, as well as NAMI</p><p>Double check if she is going to school and if she isn't, stop this charade NOW. Consider paying for legitimate medical expenses only. And food, temporarily...like six months.Consider helping her get on food stamps, if that hasn't already been done. Back off</p><p>Your help and when you do help, try to get her to at least meet you half way by doing some things herself. </p><p>Take extra good care of yourself, as this stuff is hard!!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 616537, member: 4152"] Hello. We have an adopted, now young adult daughter. who has,bipolar illness. It has contributed to over 20 years of undue stress and grief in the household. She is a good person, but........ I do not and will not, tolerate certain things. This includes: breaking the law, thievery, being rude to me or members of our family or violence. We paid for private school, private tutors, a psychologist, a psychiatrist, special medications and everything we could think of to help her, her entire life. It helped, a teeny, tiny bit. Very minimally. We helped her get on SSI (Disability). She is very ill, and at best, she might be able to work a few hours a week....so she absolutely needs assistance. She moved out at age,19. Our home became much more peaceful. We had to set up other types of boundaries, like no calling before or after certain hours. It took a long time for her to "get" that we REALLY mean this. She knows that is she is rude to us, she will NOT hear from us until she decides to change her tune. We do help her with some things, but very very minimally. Some thoughts: consider if she can really handle a full time job. If she can't, keep SSI, at least in the back of your mind as a possibility. See if she will see a counselor to get help for a variety of issues...most importantly, getting away from this guy. Consider paying for this. Well worth the money. Set up boundaries...what you will tolerate from her and won't. If she is rude to you, consider hanging up the phone and telling her to call back when she feels better and can speak more appropriately. Consider getting some help for yourself, if you haven't done so already. A counselor or support group. Co-dependent s no more is good, as well as NAMI Double check if she is going to school and if she isn't, stop this charade NOW. Consider paying for legitimate medical expenses only. And food, temporarily...like six months.Consider helping her get on food stamps, if that hasn't already been done. Back off Your help and when you do help, try to get her to at least meet you half way by doing some things herself. Take extra good care of yourself, as this stuff is hard!!!! [/QUOTE]
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