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<blockquote data-quote="Thinking Outside the Box" data-source="post: 312339" data-attributes="member: 8210"><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">I am not a step-parent myself, but my husband is to my oldest son, who is now 18. My husband became a step-parent when my son was 7 years old and his bio-father was in my son's life growing up. The only advice I could ever give to my husband was to never give up, because one day it would pay off. After marrying my husband, my son was continuously challenging for him and they barely talked for days at a time. At 14 yrs. old, my son went thru a deep crisis and I thought for sure my husband would walk out. Instead, something clicked with him and my son and they have been great ever since. The bio-father did not step up to the plate during the crisis and my son saw and felt it. My husband saw an opening where he could make a difference and prove his commitment to his step-son. All I can say is, children always know where the unconditional love is at. I was raised by a step-father myself. I admit feeling resentment and great hatred for him while growing up. My step-father never threw in the towel, as cruel as I was and now I wouldn't trade him for the world. In all fairness, my husband having a step-son, felt out of place, lower on the totem pole in comparison to the bio-father, he even doubted that he even loved my son like he loved the children we had together, until my son's crisis. Giving up is the easy thing to do and step-parents are just as important as parents. Especially when a child has challenges, regardless of the type, more love the better! </span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Thinking Outside the Box, post: 312339, member: 8210"] [FONT=Comic Sans MS]I am not a step-parent myself, but my husband is to my oldest son, who is now 18. My husband became a step-parent when my son was 7 years old and his bio-father was in my son's life growing up. The only advice I could ever give to my husband was to never give up, because one day it would pay off. After marrying my husband, my son was continuously challenging for him and they barely talked for days at a time. At 14 yrs. old, my son went thru a deep crisis and I thought for sure my husband would walk out. Instead, something clicked with him and my son and they have been great ever since. The bio-father did not step up to the plate during the crisis and my son saw and felt it. My husband saw an opening where he could make a difference and prove his commitment to his step-son. All I can say is, children always know where the unconditional love is at. I was raised by a step-father myself. I admit feeling resentment and great hatred for him while growing up. My step-father never threw in the towel, as cruel as I was and now I wouldn't trade him for the world. In all fairness, my husband having a step-son, felt out of place, lower on the totem pole in comparison to the bio-father, he even doubted that he even loved my son like he loved the children we had together, until my son's crisis. Giving up is the easy thing to do and step-parents are just as important as parents. Especially when a child has challenges, regardless of the type, more love the better! [/FONT] [/QUOTE]
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