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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 260113" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>I think the punishment for the hugging incident was foolish. Did the other boy also get into trouble for hugging (harrassment since he didn't stop when J asked him to)? I bet not. A much better way for both the boys would have been to simply talk to them both and help them see where they both could have made changes.</p><p> </p><p>So, all J has to do is call names 7 times and get sent to alternative school? So wrong!</p><p> </p><p>I would get a copy of the school's discipline policy and review it with J. Does the policy actually say detention for the first offense of name calling? And 5 days of detention for this is way out of line.</p><p> </p><p>Kids do not learn through punishment in this way. Detention did not send him the message that he should not call names - it sent him the message that he is a bad kid who will get in trouble for words. Kids are impulsive. They can get pushed into inappropriate reactions by the inappropriate behaviors of other kids. It is much better to teach them how they can better handle the situation in the future. Punishment of detention is not necessary at this time. Maybe after several incidents and the attitude of the kid being they don't care but for young kids it is not the place.</p><p> </p><p>I believe when detention is used so readily in elementary school, you will see a rise in suspensions from school in high school as kids are not being taught why their actions were wrong or ways to control their anger.</p><p> </p><p>I think it is good if the school is offering him more time on tests. It is the type of thing schools can do for the kids and not interfere with the progress of learning. In fact, it will enhance his learning experience.</p><p> </p><p>I would go with your gut instinct on the PACE program. You know better what J can handle. Sure, maybe he can do PACE if there were not other things going on in his life. You know more about his home schedule and homework load of other classes than that one teacher does. You do not need math to be a stresser for him. Maybe talk to J about how he is feeling in PACE.</p><p> </p><p>Don't let anyone pressure you into reintroducing medications. You need to know that it is the right thing for J, not for J's class work. medications are not always the total answer. I would say if they can suggest some new methods of learning for J to go a long with medications but to hear, "medications alone will make a difference" doesn't seem right to me. The give him a pill to calm him down so we don't have to guide him with discipline frustrates me.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 260113, member: 5096"] I think the punishment for the hugging incident was foolish. Did the other boy also get into trouble for hugging (harrassment since he didn't stop when J asked him to)? I bet not. A much better way for both the boys would have been to simply talk to them both and help them see where they both could have made changes. So, all J has to do is call names 7 times and get sent to alternative school? So wrong! I would get a copy of the school's discipline policy and review it with J. Does the policy actually say detention for the first offense of name calling? And 5 days of detention for this is way out of line. Kids do not learn through punishment in this way. Detention did not send him the message that he should not call names - it sent him the message that he is a bad kid who will get in trouble for words. Kids are impulsive. They can get pushed into inappropriate reactions by the inappropriate behaviors of other kids. It is much better to teach them how they can better handle the situation in the future. Punishment of detention is not necessary at this time. Maybe after several incidents and the attitude of the kid being they don't care but for young kids it is not the place. I believe when detention is used so readily in elementary school, you will see a rise in suspensions from school in high school as kids are not being taught why their actions were wrong or ways to control their anger. I think it is good if the school is offering him more time on tests. It is the type of thing schools can do for the kids and not interfere with the progress of learning. In fact, it will enhance his learning experience. I would go with your gut instinct on the PACE program. You know better what J can handle. Sure, maybe he can do PACE if there were not other things going on in his life. You know more about his home schedule and homework load of other classes than that one teacher does. You do not need math to be a stresser for him. Maybe talk to J about how he is feeling in PACE. Don't let anyone pressure you into reintroducing medications. You need to know that it is the right thing for J, not for J's class work. medications are not always the total answer. I would say if they can suggest some new methods of learning for J to go a long with medications but to hear, "medications alone will make a difference" doesn't seem right to me. The give him a pill to calm him down so we don't have to guide him with discipline frustrates me. [/QUOTE]
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