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<blockquote data-quote="jem3" data-source="post: 260207" data-attributes="member: 7135"><p>Sorry, I think I confused everyone about the alternative school as I was confused myself. It would not be a permanent placement - 3 days is what they would send him there for if he met the 7 referrals rule.</p><p></p><p>However, I don't agree with that either. I think the things that he is getting referrals for are wrong, but not severe and I think alternative school needs to be for severe issues. </p><p></p><p>I don't really think our school is hard core (although, I'm starting to question that based on things I've been told by people in other school districts) and I think our school is a great school and that they really do care. I think our AP is a little hard core - well, actually I think she is a black and white rule follower and there are no gray areas. She and I have clashed a few times but she has always listened to what I had to say and she makes adjustments to punishments given the feedback from me. For example, they used to punish J by giving him detention during recess. I feel that that was just a disaster waiting to happen. ADHD kids NEED recess (ALL kids need recess) and I don't feel recess should be taken away. I suggested instead that the kids take a "thinking lap" meaning, during recess they have to walk the track and think about what they did. She didn't do that and gave me the reasons why - whatever - but she stopped giving him recess detention and now when he gets a referral he gets morning detention. He has to be to school 15 minutes early and his stays in detention for 30 minutes in the morning. I'm fine with that.</p><p></p><p>BUT - again another but - I do think there needs to be a scale on punishment. Not everything you do you automatically get 5 days detention. One of my friends pointed out - had he punched the kid that was hugging him, he would have still gotten 5 days detention? Doesn't seem right, does it?</p><p></p><p>So - I really thank you all for your answers. They have helped SO much! I am part of a parenting board that I've been on for 10 years (it was an Infertility/Adoption board prior to us all having kids) and they are very helpful but it really helps to have people who have been there. Know what I mean?? </p><p></p><p>If you have any more advice, please keep it coming. I really appreciate it!!</p><p></p><p>And I will look into an IEP - I had heard about it but didn't know anything about it. Going to go research it now. Thanks again!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="jem3, post: 260207, member: 7135"] Sorry, I think I confused everyone about the alternative school as I was confused myself. It would not be a permanent placement - 3 days is what they would send him there for if he met the 7 referrals rule. However, I don't agree with that either. I think the things that he is getting referrals for are wrong, but not severe and I think alternative school needs to be for severe issues. I don't really think our school is hard core (although, I'm starting to question that based on things I've been told by people in other school districts) and I think our school is a great school and that they really do care. I think our AP is a little hard core - well, actually I think she is a black and white rule follower and there are no gray areas. She and I have clashed a few times but she has always listened to what I had to say and she makes adjustments to punishments given the feedback from me. For example, they used to punish J by giving him detention during recess. I feel that that was just a disaster waiting to happen. ADHD kids NEED recess (ALL kids need recess) and I don't feel recess should be taken away. I suggested instead that the kids take a "thinking lap" meaning, during recess they have to walk the track and think about what they did. She didn't do that and gave me the reasons why - whatever - but she stopped giving him recess detention and now when he gets a referral he gets morning detention. He has to be to school 15 minutes early and his stays in detention for 30 minutes in the morning. I'm fine with that. BUT - again another but - I do think there needs to be a scale on punishment. Not everything you do you automatically get 5 days detention. One of my friends pointed out - had he punched the kid that was hugging him, he would have still gotten 5 days detention? Doesn't seem right, does it? So - I really thank you all for your answers. They have helped SO much! I am part of a parenting board that I've been on for 10 years (it was an Infertility/Adoption board prior to us all having kids) and they are very helpful but it really helps to have people who have been there. Know what I mean?? If you have any more advice, please keep it coming. I really appreciate it!! And I will look into an IEP - I had heard about it but didn't know anything about it. Going to go research it now. Thanks again! [/QUOTE]
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