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<blockquote data-quote="reallytrying" data-source="post: 167187" data-attributes="member: 5447"><p>Wow-thanks to you both! I started running recently and it has helped with the stress (I can pretend that I'm running away-ha!). </p><p></p><p>The most stressful times are in the car when I cannot control what she does to her sister. It's been since the medication. that she's actually hurt her, so that's encouraging. She will demand that her sister stop singing, or that the music be turned up/on, or that everyone be quiet because her "head hurts". But she will make shrill noises or sing loudly to annoy us if we don't comply with her demands. I'm trying to teach our 8 yr-old (sweet baby, but emotional when these things happen) to ignore her and I did explain ODD to her the other day so that she would know why I stop her from arguing with little one--it still doesn't seem fair in her eyes.</p><p></p><p>Another situation we find ourselves in is evening tantrums. She is still very picky about food (thanks to the GERD) and she will begin asking what's for dinner an hour before we start on dinner so that she can start telling us she hates it (even if it's something she's eaten a million times!). I do the whole L&L thing where we wrap her plate up and offer it each time she says she's hungry. But, a hungry ODD kiddo is like a monster! This leads to her throwing her plate and/or drink somewhere and punching someone. This is when I usually "offer" to help her get to her room safely (meaning restraining her in a safe way). I'm so sick of restraining her, but there are holes in the walls where she has knocked chairs into them, or used her toys as destructive tools. This situation ends up with her going to bed early and me staying with her until she calms down. Should I even try to patch them up now, or wait until she's able to control her anger?</p><p></p><p>She will fight over anything--space on the couch, wanting to wear dirty clothes (really dirty) out, she will even tell me she wants milk and then change her mind 3 times and throw a fit about not having what she wants. And we have never been the type parents that give in--she just never gives up. Maybe she needs to get her own drink? (maybe I'm beginning to understand this!)</p><p></p><p>She regularly insults me, if I even imply that the answer will not be "yes". </p><p></p><p>These are just a few of the struggles we often have. And although the medicine seems to be working, she still tries to tell us all how to do everything. Thankfully, she held it together at school. But as soon as we got out the door to go home, she would totally lose composure.</p><p></p><p>I'm so glad I found this site--I even bought "The Explosive Child" yesterday based on someone's post I read here.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="reallytrying, post: 167187, member: 5447"] Wow-thanks to you both! I started running recently and it has helped with the stress (I can pretend that I'm running away-ha!). The most stressful times are in the car when I cannot control what she does to her sister. It's been since the medication. that she's actually hurt her, so that's encouraging. She will demand that her sister stop singing, or that the music be turned up/on, or that everyone be quiet because her "head hurts". But she will make shrill noises or sing loudly to annoy us if we don't comply with her demands. I'm trying to teach our 8 yr-old (sweet baby, but emotional when these things happen) to ignore her and I did explain ODD to her the other day so that she would know why I stop her from arguing with little one--it still doesn't seem fair in her eyes. Another situation we find ourselves in is evening tantrums. She is still very picky about food (thanks to the GERD) and she will begin asking what's for dinner an hour before we start on dinner so that she can start telling us she hates it (even if it's something she's eaten a million times!). I do the whole L&L thing where we wrap her plate up and offer it each time she says she's hungry. But, a hungry ODD kiddo is like a monster! This leads to her throwing her plate and/or drink somewhere and punching someone. This is when I usually "offer" to help her get to her room safely (meaning restraining her in a safe way). I'm so sick of restraining her, but there are holes in the walls where she has knocked chairs into them, or used her toys as destructive tools. This situation ends up with her going to bed early and me staying with her until she calms down. Should I even try to patch them up now, or wait until she's able to control her anger? She will fight over anything--space on the couch, wanting to wear dirty clothes (really dirty) out, she will even tell me she wants milk and then change her mind 3 times and throw a fit about not having what she wants. And we have never been the type parents that give in--she just never gives up. Maybe she needs to get her own drink? (maybe I'm beginning to understand this!) She regularly insults me, if I even imply that the answer will not be "yes". These are just a few of the struggles we often have. And although the medicine seems to be working, she still tries to tell us all how to do everything. Thankfully, she held it together at school. But as soon as we got out the door to go home, she would totally lose composure. I'm so glad I found this site--I even bought "The Explosive Child" yesterday based on someone's post I read here. [/QUOTE]
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