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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 255032" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>You have received some great feedback. I am going to give input on the school and having a hard time making friends.</p><p> </p><p>Last year, my difficult child basically lost all his friends. He started the new year unable to go to school or participate in social things so he lost touch with all his friends. Then as he became healthier over the winter, his behaviors were so unacceptable that the kids would stay away from him. That made him work harder to "be in their face" to try to get into the bonds the other kids had that he had not built into for the year. He grew up with most of these kids but he had changed and they did not like the changes he was showing. He felt very left out.</p><p> </p><p>I would think that at age 10, most of the kids in this new school have known each other for a very long time. They are comfortable with each other and do not want to make an effort to take the chance to make a new friend. So, my suggestion would be to talk to the teacher and see if there are any classmates that she thinks are good friend matches for your difficult child. Then, invite both that child and the parents over for supper to get acquainted. You can also meet parents through the Parent Teacher League if there is one. Attend some meetings and see what you think.</p><p>Sometimes it is easier for kids to become friends on a one to one basis outside of school and the watchful judging eyes of their peers.</p><p> </p><p>The annoyance maybe that he feels left out and is trying to get the kids to accept him and draw him into their circles.</p><p> </p><p>Oh, and has he had his birthday this school year? You could invite a few of the kids to a party and see which ones would be best suited as friends. If birthday is done, have an Easter party or Spring Party.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 255032, member: 5096"] You have received some great feedback. I am going to give input on the school and having a hard time making friends. Last year, my difficult child basically lost all his friends. He started the new year unable to go to school or participate in social things so he lost touch with all his friends. Then as he became healthier over the winter, his behaviors were so unacceptable that the kids would stay away from him. That made him work harder to "be in their face" to try to get into the bonds the other kids had that he had not built into for the year. He grew up with most of these kids but he had changed and they did not like the changes he was showing. He felt very left out. I would think that at age 10, most of the kids in this new school have known each other for a very long time. They are comfortable with each other and do not want to make an effort to take the chance to make a new friend. So, my suggestion would be to talk to the teacher and see if there are any classmates that she thinks are good friend matches for your difficult child. Then, invite both that child and the parents over for supper to get acquainted. You can also meet parents through the Parent Teacher League if there is one. Attend some meetings and see what you think. Sometimes it is easier for kids to become friends on a one to one basis outside of school and the watchful judging eyes of their peers. The annoyance maybe that he feels left out and is trying to get the kids to accept him and draw him into their circles. Oh, and has he had his birthday this school year? You could invite a few of the kids to a party and see which ones would be best suited as friends. If birthday is done, have an Easter party or Spring Party. [/QUOTE]
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