Hi Amanda, I am also new to the board, but will welcome you anyway!
It sounds like you are doing wonderfully with your Very full house (I have four too). Have you asked your difficult child's doctor about all this? If not they should be able to refere you to a specialist who can do testing to rule out anything that might require medications. I can understand if you are hesitant to put your young child on medication (I believe in using the least amount of medications possable) but if needed they can make a huge diffrence! Hopefully you will come across some helpfull and understanding doctors who will be able to help you through the process.
Hang in there! Whenever times are tough just remember the last time you were cuddling and getting along, take a deep breath and you will make it through!!
