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<blockquote data-quote="lkleiv77" data-source="post: 519366" data-attributes="member: 13663"><p>Hi there. I'm sorry, I don't have much to offer except that we are going through the exact same thing with our son. From what I have found on my own, ADD or ADHD is what everyone wants to jump to because it is an easy lable. just like you, I don't see those signs in my child. As it stands now, L is seeing a therapist who is going through some of the anger issues with him. Teaching him techn'cs for managing it. Honestly, while it could be helping I don't think it is really getting to the bottom of anything. Like you, the worst of it is at home. I hate you and I should just kill myself could start just from asking L to make a simple transition from watching tv to homework or dinner. Every transition has to be counted down so that there is confirmation everyone knows in "10 minutes it dinner time" - just an example. When we went to the school 6 months ago (K) and requested an evaluation all they could do is give us stuff to try - like they suggested a reward chart. They didn't want to listen to the fact that he has had some form of chart since he is 1! (we have tried everything from charts to diet) Needless to say the school was useless. I am currently waiting on some sort of diagnostic findings b4 I push them for more assistance.</p><p>-In addtion to the therapy we have a nuero phys test set up for july. I know there are some sensory issues (shoes too tight, smells - stuff like that) so who knows maybe it will help us understand a little more. 1 thing that is a little different betwen us, is that I do think L could have early onset bi-p. His moods come and go in waves. He could have 10 swings in a day or he can go for a week at a time. Obviously I have no answers or help for you as it seems we are still at the same stage. I can offer you an ear though. I am not sure of your family dynamic but I have 2 other children and dealing with these "rages" it even harder when you want to shelter others from seeing it. husband and I have come up with some things on our own that seem to have helped us navigate through rages better. Message me if you want me to shoot you a note with what we found that worked for us- its just small stuff but each moment that is less of a struggle is a win in my book!</p><p>- I would suggest start keeping a daily journal immediately. Even if you scribble random words for each day - just something to give you an idea of how the day went. I write down everything. Bed time, type of sleep, did he use the word hate today or the word kill, did he give me a kiss at bed, did he poop - all these little things seem so small but after a month of little things when you go back and map it out things may stand out to you that you never saw b4.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="lkleiv77, post: 519366, member: 13663"] Hi there. I'm sorry, I don't have much to offer except that we are going through the exact same thing with our son. From what I have found on my own, ADD or ADHD is what everyone wants to jump to because it is an easy lable. just like you, I don't see those signs in my child. As it stands now, L is seeing a therapist who is going through some of the anger issues with him. Teaching him techn'cs for managing it. Honestly, while it could be helping I don't think it is really getting to the bottom of anything. Like you, the worst of it is at home. I hate you and I should just kill myself could start just from asking L to make a simple transition from watching tv to homework or dinner. Every transition has to be counted down so that there is confirmation everyone knows in "10 minutes it dinner time" - just an example. When we went to the school 6 months ago (K) and requested an evaluation all they could do is give us stuff to try - like they suggested a reward chart. They didn't want to listen to the fact that he has had some form of chart since he is 1! (we have tried everything from charts to diet) Needless to say the school was useless. I am currently waiting on some sort of diagnostic findings b4 I push them for more assistance. -In addtion to the therapy we have a nuero phys test set up for july. I know there are some sensory issues (shoes too tight, smells - stuff like that) so who knows maybe it will help us understand a little more. 1 thing that is a little different betwen us, is that I do think L could have early onset bi-p. His moods come and go in waves. He could have 10 swings in a day or he can go for a week at a time. Obviously I have no answers or help for you as it seems we are still at the same stage. I can offer you an ear though. I am not sure of your family dynamic but I have 2 other children and dealing with these "rages" it even harder when you want to shelter others from seeing it. husband and I have come up with some things on our own that seem to have helped us navigate through rages better. Message me if you want me to shoot you a note with what we found that worked for us- its just small stuff but each moment that is less of a struggle is a win in my book! - I would suggest start keeping a daily journal immediately. Even if you scribble random words for each day - just something to give you an idea of how the day went. I write down everything. Bed time, type of sleep, did he use the word hate today or the word kill, did he give me a kiss at bed, did he poop - all these little things seem so small but after a month of little things when you go back and map it out things may stand out to you that you never saw b4. [/QUOTE]
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