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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 407625" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>AHF, </p><p> </p><p>Could you; file for SSDI and petition the court as a guardian to gain complete control over his financials? Being BiPolar (BP) and having a mood disorder it could be a consideration. I guess at this point if he's willing to go, and you are willing to pay for it? Then you both mutually agree it would help it's worth trying, possibly set a 'check' date to see how he's progressing. If by your progress date he isn't making the grade, I would have a plan B in place where as you, your husband and son all agree if A does not occur then plan B is what will occur. I would write it out, have everyone sign it like any contract that you all agree on. </p><p> </p><p>If it's something like Wilderness camp does not work then Mom and Dad will get you an apartment close to home with SSDI money and we will control your financials with a $20 week allowance, pay the utilities out of your SSDI and you will continue in community college until which time you graduate - so be it. </p><p> </p><p>If it's something like Wilderness camp does not work then you will be on your own, receive no financial support from Mom and Dad. </p><p> </p><p>Or it could be - If Wilderness camp is successful then Mom and Dad will - and list your options as you have discussed them as a family perhaps with a family counselor as a mediator in the room for balance. </p><p> </p><p>This is your life, your family - and you know what you want. It's easy for me to say - I WOULD THIS----or I WOULD NOT THAT....just as much as it would be very easy if something happens six months from now and someone comes back and says "well you said do THIS and now look this is your fault." Always keep in mind that the final choice is yours, this is your son, your family, your life - You're an awesome Mom with a lot of tough choices to make- very tough. No one envies you any of these decisions. Just know that you have friends here who will tell you like it is.....not sugar coat it - because we've been through the trenches and value each others opinions on hindsight. </p><p> </p><p>I wish at this point poker would go jump in a deep lake.....</p><p> </p><p>Hugs </p><p>STar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 407625, member: 4964"] AHF, Could you; file for SSDI and petition the court as a guardian to gain complete control over his financials? Being BiPolar (BP) and having a mood disorder it could be a consideration. I guess at this point if he's willing to go, and you are willing to pay for it? Then you both mutually agree it would help it's worth trying, possibly set a 'check' date to see how he's progressing. If by your progress date he isn't making the grade, I would have a plan B in place where as you, your husband and son all agree if A does not occur then plan B is what will occur. I would write it out, have everyone sign it like any contract that you all agree on. If it's something like Wilderness camp does not work then Mom and Dad will get you an apartment close to home with SSDI money and we will control your financials with a $20 week allowance, pay the utilities out of your SSDI and you will continue in community college until which time you graduate - so be it. If it's something like Wilderness camp does not work then you will be on your own, receive no financial support from Mom and Dad. Or it could be - If Wilderness camp is successful then Mom and Dad will - and list your options as you have discussed them as a family perhaps with a family counselor as a mediator in the room for balance. This is your life, your family - and you know what you want. It's easy for me to say - I WOULD THIS----or I WOULD NOT THAT....just as much as it would be very easy if something happens six months from now and someone comes back and says "well you said do THIS and now look this is your fault." Always keep in mind that the final choice is yours, this is your son, your family, your life - You're an awesome Mom with a lot of tough choices to make- very tough. No one envies you any of these decisions. Just know that you have friends here who will tell you like it is.....not sugar coat it - because we've been through the trenches and value each others opinions on hindsight. I wish at this point poker would go jump in a deep lake..... Hugs STar [/QUOTE]
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