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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 616184" data-attributes="member: 15801"><p>Yes I would advise against bringing her home. If she is being defiant there you can be assured it will be worse when she is home... and back with the same friends makes it very very likely. i do feel your pain, it is very hard to have your child away when they are so young.</p><p></p><p>When my son was 15 we ended up sending my son to a therapeutic boarding school for 16 months. It was tough going in many ways but he did do well there.... and afterwards we brought him home. It felt important to me that he come home. He came home and the first 6 weeks was amazing... after that things started to slide but he got a nice girlfriend and continued to do pretty well for almost a year and then things went downhill.... eventually way down hill.</p><p></p><p>I do think he learned some things there (and also resented us for keeping him there), however I think if we had brought him home earlier it would have been worse much much faster. One of the things I think about is that by having him in the school, and that first year back kept him from heavy drug use for some important time in brain development. For all I know that may have saved his life.</p><p></p><p>So given her age, the longer you can help keep her stay clean the better as heavy drug use at a young age does interfere with brain development.... and I suspect the concussion makes that even more of a concern.</p><p></p><p>I think Suz asks some good questions. What are your concerns about the place. Is it because she is not doing well there... if she is defiant and fighting it, that is pretty normal behavior... especially if she thinks there is a chance you will bring her home! If it is because of things she is telling you then check those things out because she may be exaggerating or lying to manipulate you into bringing you home. If it is because it hurt to see your daughter there well it does hurt, it hurts a lot and the only thing you can do is to take care of yourself and take comfort in that there are others who are also caring for her.</p><p></p><p>TL</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Sent from my iPad using ConductDisorders</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 616184, member: 15801"] Yes I would advise against bringing her home. If she is being defiant there you can be assured it will be worse when she is home... and back with the same friends makes it very very likely. i do feel your pain, it is very hard to have your child away when they are so young. When my son was 15 we ended up sending my son to a therapeutic boarding school for 16 months. It was tough going in many ways but he did do well there.... and afterwards we brought him home. It felt important to me that he come home. He came home and the first 6 weeks was amazing... after that things started to slide but he got a nice girlfriend and continued to do pretty well for almost a year and then things went downhill.... eventually way down hill. I do think he learned some things there (and also resented us for keeping him there), however I think if we had brought him home earlier it would have been worse much much faster. One of the things I think about is that by having him in the school, and that first year back kept him from heavy drug use for some important time in brain development. For all I know that may have saved his life. So given her age, the longer you can help keep her stay clean the better as heavy drug use at a young age does interfere with brain development.... and I suspect the concussion makes that even more of a concern. I think Suz asks some good questions. What are your concerns about the place. Is it because she is not doing well there... if she is defiant and fighting it, that is pretty normal behavior... especially if she thinks there is a chance you will bring her home! If it is because of things she is telling you then check those things out because she may be exaggerating or lying to manipulate you into bringing you home. If it is because it hurt to see your daughter there well it does hurt, it hurts a lot and the only thing you can do is to take care of yourself and take comfort in that there are others who are also caring for her. TL Sent from my iPad using ConductDisorders [/QUOTE]
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