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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 354021" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Oh, the problems with conversations! And yet, as I said, they can learn. Also if the conversation is on their terms, or about something they fully understand or are obsessed with, they can be very animated and participate fully.</p><p></p><p>I was listening to husband & difficult child 3 talking yesterday. To a certain extent, it was difficult child 3's first driving lesson, only he wasn't behind the wheel. husband was explaining exactly how cars work and how the gears work, demonstrating on the drive home by getting difficult child 3 to note what was happening and listen to the engine. The conversation between them was appropriate, was detailed, was 'on topic' for a full half hour. I actually suggested we stop the car and I swapped places with difficult child 3, putting him in the front and me in the back, because this was gold.</p><p></p><p>The thing is - they were talking technical, mostly. But I was really impressed with how 'normal' it all sounded.</p><p></p><p>Mind you, difficult child 3 has autism, so for him it's been much more difficult to hold a conversation, than for an Aspie. But he's high-functioning, which means he has been able to learn, able to adapt and as he put it years ago, "pretend to be normal".</p><p></p><p>And yes - very loving. Even before he knew the words. But it always had to be on his terms, you can't grab a kid like this for a hug, you have to ask for one. And sometimes they will be spontaneous and give you a hug. Those are gold, too.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 354021, member: 1991"] Oh, the problems with conversations! And yet, as I said, they can learn. Also if the conversation is on their terms, or about something they fully understand or are obsessed with, they can be very animated and participate fully. I was listening to husband & difficult child 3 talking yesterday. To a certain extent, it was difficult child 3's first driving lesson, only he wasn't behind the wheel. husband was explaining exactly how cars work and how the gears work, demonstrating on the drive home by getting difficult child 3 to note what was happening and listen to the engine. The conversation between them was appropriate, was detailed, was 'on topic' for a full half hour. I actually suggested we stop the car and I swapped places with difficult child 3, putting him in the front and me in the back, because this was gold. The thing is - they were talking technical, mostly. But I was really impressed with how 'normal' it all sounded. Mind you, difficult child 3 has autism, so for him it's been much more difficult to hold a conversation, than for an Aspie. But he's high-functioning, which means he has been able to learn, able to adapt and as he put it years ago, "pretend to be normal". And yes - very loving. Even before he knew the words. But it always had to be on his terms, you can't grab a kid like this for a hug, you have to ask for one. And sometimes they will be spontaneous and give you a hug. Those are gold, too. Marg [/QUOTE]
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