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<blockquote data-quote="amy1129" data-source="post: 422733" data-attributes="member: 11795"><p>Hi All,</p><p>My son is 6, turning 7 in June but his issues started right around the time he could say "NO", may 1 1/2-2 so I figured I could sneak my story in here. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> </p><p> </p><p>At first husband and I thought his tantrums and saying no were due the fact he is a boy and 2nd child, that we werent able to spend along time with him like his older sister. THen we thought the tantrums and "not otherwise specified" were the terrible 2s, terrible 3s, etc. it just got worse and worse and worse. He doesnt like when things dont go his way, doesnt get what he wants, doesnt do what is asked of him...his tantrums got worse, destructive (well for a 6 year old). pushes every button and then some with husband and I. </p><p> </p><p>Time outs dont work, he just sits there, punches door, rips paper, throws stuff, slowly inches himself out. Watched the "Nanny" shows, took notes and applied them. So I sat with him in time out, ended up holding him in time out, which led to spitting on himself and me, biting or twisting my arm, kicking...you get the point right? </p><p> </p><p>his sister and him get along like typical brother and sister, they fight, they wrestle, they sometimes hurt each other. my husband has become almost mean with him, he is at a point where he does not like him at all and has started to verbalize it in front of him....I know that is so wrong, but we are both at our breaking point with him. I was ignoring or not reacting to the behavior for the longest time but lately I have started to snap at him, cry in bedroom because I am so frustrated and upset with how I am acting, I get "in the sandbox" with him and sometime we go tit-for-tat (so embarrassed by that). </p><p> </p><p>I talk with family and teachers, they think I am crazy because he is pretty much an angel with them. Lately he has started with my parents, testing them, pushing them, and the tantrums have shown up as well. The teacher says he is a great kid that doesnt like to hear no or gets upset when he cant do something he wanted to, but his reactions are different there....he sat at his desk and broke all the crayons and tore all the paper at his desk, she made him clean it up and it was over but she wasnt concerned at all. </p><p> </p><p>I also went to a self help lecture by dr ross greene and his cognative behaviour therapy and heard about ODD. It worked for a bit then it just stopped. </p><p> </p><p>I have recently been hearing, "I hate you" " you are the worst mother/father i ever had" "I want to die" (this was said only once after I told him we were going to a certain restaurant), he drew a picture of shooting his sister and slid it under her door and said this is want i want to do to you. Its now everything I ask or say ends with him stomping his foot, yelling no, or dropping to the floor and having a tantrum and I only asked him to brush his teeth. </p><p> </p><p>I broke down and called a family counceling place, been on waiting list for over a month. Cant wait any longer, so I called the mental health line on my insurance card....they were GREAT. gave me a few names, called the first one last thurs, havent heard back yet, not sure i should call her again or call the next name. </p><p> </p><p>Does this sound like ODD? what can i do in the meantime, its like walking on egg shells in my house, husband and I argue all the time about it, and daughter is feeling the effects too, she ends up giving in and gives him whatever to end the tantrum. </p><p> </p><p>OMG just realized how long this is.....so sorry!!<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/sorrysmiley.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":sorrysmiley:" title="sorrysmiley :sorrysmiley:" data-shortname=":sorrysmiley:" /></p><p> </p><p>Amy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="amy1129, post: 422733, member: 11795"] Hi All, My son is 6, turning 7 in June but his issues started right around the time he could say "NO", may 1 1/2-2 so I figured I could sneak my story in here. :) At first husband and I thought his tantrums and saying no were due the fact he is a boy and 2nd child, that we werent able to spend along time with him like his older sister. THen we thought the tantrums and "not otherwise specified" were the terrible 2s, terrible 3s, etc. it just got worse and worse and worse. He doesnt like when things dont go his way, doesnt get what he wants, doesnt do what is asked of him...his tantrums got worse, destructive (well for a 6 year old). pushes every button and then some with husband and I. Time outs dont work, he just sits there, punches door, rips paper, throws stuff, slowly inches himself out. Watched the "Nanny" shows, took notes and applied them. So I sat with him in time out, ended up holding him in time out, which led to spitting on himself and me, biting or twisting my arm, kicking...you get the point right? his sister and him get along like typical brother and sister, they fight, they wrestle, they sometimes hurt each other. my husband has become almost mean with him, he is at a point where he does not like him at all and has started to verbalize it in front of him....I know that is so wrong, but we are both at our breaking point with him. I was ignoring or not reacting to the behavior for the longest time but lately I have started to snap at him, cry in bedroom because I am so frustrated and upset with how I am acting, I get "in the sandbox" with him and sometime we go tit-for-tat (so embarrassed by that). I talk with family and teachers, they think I am crazy because he is pretty much an angel with them. Lately he has started with my parents, testing them, pushing them, and the tantrums have shown up as well. The teacher says he is a great kid that doesnt like to hear no or gets upset when he cant do something he wanted to, but his reactions are different there....he sat at his desk and broke all the crayons and tore all the paper at his desk, she made him clean it up and it was over but she wasnt concerned at all. I also went to a self help lecture by dr ross greene and his cognative behaviour therapy and heard about ODD. It worked for a bit then it just stopped. I have recently been hearing, "I hate you" " you are the worst mother/father i ever had" "I want to die" (this was said only once after I told him we were going to a certain restaurant), he drew a picture of shooting his sister and slid it under her door and said this is want i want to do to you. Its now everything I ask or say ends with him stomping his foot, yelling no, or dropping to the floor and having a tantrum and I only asked him to brush his teeth. I broke down and called a family counceling place, been on waiting list for over a month. Cant wait any longer, so I called the mental health line on my insurance card....they were GREAT. gave me a few names, called the first one last thurs, havent heard back yet, not sure i should call her again or call the next name. Does this sound like ODD? what can i do in the meantime, its like walking on egg shells in my house, husband and I argue all the time about it, and daughter is feeling the effects too, she ends up giving in and gives him whatever to end the tantrum. OMG just realized how long this is.....so sorry!!:sorrysmiley: Amy [/QUOTE]
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