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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 271137" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>By age 16, and with ex having primary custody, I"m not sure there is anything you can do. First of all, your sons MAY be gay. They think they are. If so, you have the choice of accepting them or losing them. To me, the bigger issue is whether they are endangering themselves. At 16, ex and you can still TRY to reign him in...but at 16 it is also hard to monitor everything kids do. If they want to disobey, it's hard to stop them other than to put them in an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) (where they can still engage in sex talk/maybe even seeing each other's body parts, etc.) but at least they're monitored and can be caught. At 18 it is way out of your hands other than to make them leave if they break your rules. That would be up to ex. And, frankly, sexual issues are VERY hard to monitor. </p><p></p><p>You and ex have two years at most to make a difference. I hope you can. Don't blame yourself if you can't. He is almost a young man, and the law is not on your side anymore. At 17, it is even less on your side. </p><p></p><p>(((Hugs))) and stop blaming yourself. It's not your fault.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 271137, member: 1550"] By age 16, and with ex having primary custody, I"m not sure there is anything you can do. First of all, your sons MAY be gay. They think they are. If so, you have the choice of accepting them or losing them. To me, the bigger issue is whether they are endangering themselves. At 16, ex and you can still TRY to reign him in...but at 16 it is also hard to monitor everything kids do. If they want to disobey, it's hard to stop them other than to put them in an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) (where they can still engage in sex talk/maybe even seeing each other's body parts, etc.) but at least they're monitored and can be caught. At 18 it is way out of your hands other than to make them leave if they break your rules. That would be up to ex. And, frankly, sexual issues are VERY hard to monitor. You and ex have two years at most to make a difference. I hope you can. Don't blame yourself if you can't. He is almost a young man, and the law is not on your side anymore. At 17, it is even less on your side. (((Hugs))) and stop blaming yourself. It's not your fault. [/QUOTE]
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