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<blockquote data-quote="Alli1" data-source="post: 167643" data-attributes="member: 5469"><p>Wow, Ok, maybe I will see dr. on Monday (our scheduled visit) and discuss this with her. </p><p>I don't think I was awful to her... I mean, when she was a baby, I was criticized for carrying/holding her too much, I would rock her to sleep for like an hour every night, I didn't believe in crying it out, after several exhausted months of sleep deprivation I finally put her in bed with us so finally we could sleep at night. I only worked part time then quit to be at home with her before second baby was born, we played, read books, etc, rarely if ever watched tv, went to parks and for walks a lot.</p><p></p><p>This was as a baby... but even as a young thing she would run out in the road - which she still does as an almost 8 year old, her sister 2 years younger can understand the dangers of parking lots and streets better than she can. And she would run off a lot, she would do the opposite of what I asked, she would be visibly (to others) defiant, she would get upset if I made her wear warm clothes in winter (she STILL gets mad if I ask her to wear a jacket) and cool clothes in summer... I am mostly tiptoeing around her (and her sister does it too) excessive moodiness and tantrums. And other people as well, family of mine, don't like being around her or find her very difficult to deal with (and always has). </p><p></p><p>Her father, however, was the most patient person in the entire world and would endlessly deal with her and also ended up holding her all the time - even as a four and five year old (we're talking carrying her around while fixing dinner, holding her while actually feeding her food for her, etc). I had set stricter boundaries but that was his relationship with her... and probably why she was so upset when he died. </p><p></p><p>Anyway thanks for letting me get this off my chest also reassuring me that possibly this is not the correct diagnosis for her. It's been so hard (as I'm sure all of you know and have harder too) and there have been times when I wish she was 18 and leaving home... terrible to say but I just can't deal. </p><p></p><p>Thanks for all the replies and good luck to all who are doing the best for their kids - I see lots of love here. </p><p></p><p>Alli1</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Alli1, post: 167643, member: 5469"] Wow, Ok, maybe I will see dr. on Monday (our scheduled visit) and discuss this with her. I don't think I was awful to her... I mean, when she was a baby, I was criticized for carrying/holding her too much, I would rock her to sleep for like an hour every night, I didn't believe in crying it out, after several exhausted months of sleep deprivation I finally put her in bed with us so finally we could sleep at night. I only worked part time then quit to be at home with her before second baby was born, we played, read books, etc, rarely if ever watched tv, went to parks and for walks a lot. This was as a baby... but even as a young thing she would run out in the road - which she still does as an almost 8 year old, her sister 2 years younger can understand the dangers of parking lots and streets better than she can. And she would run off a lot, she would do the opposite of what I asked, she would be visibly (to others) defiant, she would get upset if I made her wear warm clothes in winter (she STILL gets mad if I ask her to wear a jacket) and cool clothes in summer... I am mostly tiptoeing around her (and her sister does it too) excessive moodiness and tantrums. And other people as well, family of mine, don't like being around her or find her very difficult to deal with (and always has). Her father, however, was the most patient person in the entire world and would endlessly deal with her and also ended up holding her all the time - even as a four and five year old (we're talking carrying her around while fixing dinner, holding her while actually feeding her food for her, etc). I had set stricter boundaries but that was his relationship with her... and probably why she was so upset when he died. Anyway thanks for letting me get this off my chest also reassuring me that possibly this is not the correct diagnosis for her. It's been so hard (as I'm sure all of you know and have harder too) and there have been times when I wish she was 18 and leaving home... terrible to say but I just can't deal. Thanks for all the replies and good luck to all who are doing the best for their kids - I see lots of love here. Alli1 [/QUOTE]
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