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<blockquote data-quote="PennyFromTheBlock" data-source="post: 633504" data-attributes="member: 18271"><p>Wanted to give a quick update- he kept on and on and on and on and on and on and I stuck to my guns. Mercy he was mad. I seriously was sick on my drive Sunday evening, because I just did not know what he would do. So, I told my daughter (which is sad, that i have to do this) that if her brother showed up at her apartment, not to answer the door, not to talk to him through the door- make sure all the locks are locked and call the police. Thankfully, she lives in a complex where each building has a courtyard, so if he was being violent trying to get in, there'd be a multitude of neighbors who would hear and see and likely call the police too. He never went by there. </p><p></p><p>I guess I don't know how much of his aggression is for show, or how much he means. Again, for far too long, I've enabled this behavior because I was trying to keep everyone from harm. It's like leaving a bad relationship- you have to get to a point where you see the light (so to speak). When I think of all this from the point of "detaching" and think of the last 3 years he's been an adult (not to mention the years before that- he's been, to put it nicely, a handful from day 1).....what a fool I've been. </p><p></p><p>I did tell him late on sunday (via text messages) as he, once again, said he'd kill himself or tear up something- I called his bluff. I asked, first of all, if he was making threats towards me? And if he was threatening to kill himself? Then told him that if this continued, I'd cut his phone off, screenshot his threats, and call the police. At first, regarding the threat of suicide, he 'said' that the police couldn't do anything about a choice he was making- I assured him that in Texas, yes they can and there are two options- treatment center or jail. Period. So that stopped (for the moment). I mean, I guess rather than towing the line, I have to just get there with him.</p><p></p><p>Any experience with just stopping- as in, just no longer responding? I guess I fear it will just anger him MORE. as in, "Oh, you are going to ignore me? Well, I'll show you!" kind of thing.</p><p></p><p>thanks again for all the support- I'm at the beginning stages of all this.....it's so scary.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="PennyFromTheBlock, post: 633504, member: 18271"] Wanted to give a quick update- he kept on and on and on and on and on and on and I stuck to my guns. Mercy he was mad. I seriously was sick on my drive Sunday evening, because I just did not know what he would do. So, I told my daughter (which is sad, that i have to do this) that if her brother showed up at her apartment, not to answer the door, not to talk to him through the door- make sure all the locks are locked and call the police. Thankfully, she lives in a complex where each building has a courtyard, so if he was being violent trying to get in, there'd be a multitude of neighbors who would hear and see and likely call the police too. He never went by there. I guess I don't know how much of his aggression is for show, or how much he means. Again, for far too long, I've enabled this behavior because I was trying to keep everyone from harm. It's like leaving a bad relationship- you have to get to a point where you see the light (so to speak). When I think of all this from the point of "detaching" and think of the last 3 years he's been an adult (not to mention the years before that- he's been, to put it nicely, a handful from day 1).....what a fool I've been. I did tell him late on sunday (via text messages) as he, once again, said he'd kill himself or tear up something- I called his bluff. I asked, first of all, if he was making threats towards me? And if he was threatening to kill himself? Then told him that if this continued, I'd cut his phone off, screenshot his threats, and call the police. At first, regarding the threat of suicide, he 'said' that the police couldn't do anything about a choice he was making- I assured him that in Texas, yes they can and there are two options- treatment center or jail. Period. So that stopped (for the moment). I mean, I guess rather than towing the line, I have to just get there with him. Any experience with just stopping- as in, just no longer responding? I guess I fear it will just anger him MORE. as in, "Oh, you are going to ignore me? Well, I'll show you!" kind of thing. thanks again for all the support- I'm at the beginning stages of all this.....it's so scary. [/QUOTE]
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