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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 111462" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>The magistrate talked to her about that at her hearing. We actually had to go before the magistrate twice because the first time he gave her probation and then more charges were filed. He told her that she could be ordered to an Residential Treatment Center (RTC). I was very worried about that posssibility because she already had adoption issues and was convinced we didn't love her and would abandon her just like her birthmother and I think an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) would have just reinforced that. Her bond with us was very tenuous and could have been completely severed without much trouble. </p><p></p><p>From the sounds of it, you have expended a great deal of expense just as we have over the years. Her college fund and much more has been spent on therapists(most of who were completely unable to reach her), doctors, testing, and medications. The thought of having to refinance our house to send her to an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) and having my other daughter's college fund threatened was almost too much to consider. I had reconciled that if that's what it came down to I had to be prepared that it would severely damage our relationship. I have several acquaintences who have sent their teens to Residential Treatment Center (RTC)'s and frankly none of them have turned out very well. I'm sure there are good places but we didn't have the time or money to try them out to find the right one.</p><p></p><p>I will say that the ages 13-15 were by far the worst. We prayed we could get her through those years until her brain matured somewhat and she was able to see where her life was headed. We had no clue whether that time would come, but the closer she got to 16 the better things got. She looks back now on the kids she was hanging with in freshman year, two of the girls are pregnant, two had abortions, several of the guys have dropped out of school, one has been sent away somewhere, one of them is going to be a father, and none of them will be going on to college. She was unable to see that back then, but now it's very clear.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 111462, member: 59"] The magistrate talked to her about that at her hearing. We actually had to go before the magistrate twice because the first time he gave her probation and then more charges were filed. He told her that she could be ordered to an Residential Treatment Center (RTC). I was very worried about that posssibility because she already had adoption issues and was convinced we didn't love her and would abandon her just like her birthmother and I think an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) would have just reinforced that. Her bond with us was very tenuous and could have been completely severed without much trouble. From the sounds of it, you have expended a great deal of expense just as we have over the years. Her college fund and much more has been spent on therapists(most of who were completely unable to reach her), doctors, testing, and medications. The thought of having to refinance our house to send her to an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) and having my other daughter's college fund threatened was almost too much to consider. I had reconciled that if that's what it came down to I had to be prepared that it would severely damage our relationship. I have several acquaintences who have sent their teens to Residential Treatment Center (RTC)'s and frankly none of them have turned out very well. I'm sure there are good places but we didn't have the time or money to try them out to find the right one. I will say that the ages 13-15 were by far the worst. We prayed we could get her through those years until her brain matured somewhat and she was able to see where her life was headed. We had no clue whether that time would come, but the closer she got to 16 the better things got. She looks back now on the kids she was hanging with in freshman year, two of the girls are pregnant, two had abortions, several of the guys have dropped out of school, one has been sent away somewhere, one of them is going to be a father, and none of them will be going on to college. She was unable to see that back then, but now it's very clear. Nancy [/QUOTE]
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