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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 341191" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hi. So sorry you had to come here, but, yes, we understand.</p><p></p><p>Does your son have a drug or alcohol problem? Is he in legal trouble? Did he finish school, have any skills, etc?</p><p></p><p>Whatever the answers are, he is 26. You in my opinion should not be giving him any money at all. If you want to, I'd buy him some groceries and bring them to him, but he will not grow up unless he has to. As for "you'll answer to this" I would not respond to threats. </p><p></p><p>The best thing you can do is to learn to detach, which isn't easy but is necessary. He isn't going to learn anything if dad and mom keep picking him up, although he's a grown up. And he obviously isn't motivated to work, and it's all the easier not to work when he knows you'll give him money.</p><p></p><p>He lives in a car at times? That is his choice. He certainly CAN get a job, man up, and get a cheap place to live. He just won't do it, so he is choosing to be homeless. He is apparently no joy to live with either. You in my opinion should make sure YOU don't drown in his dysfunction. You need a life, friends, hobbies, to move forward. Concentrate on yourself, your hub, your other kids if you have any, your friends, and taking good care of yourself.</p><p></p><p>So many of our kids drive us crazy when it's actually time for us to relax and finally live life for ourselves. I would do it. You can't change your son. He has to change himself.</p><p></p><p>God great me the SERENITY to accept the things I can not change, (your son and his choices)</p><p>The Courage to change the things I can, (Your response to his choices and your life focus)</p><p>and the Wisdom to know the difference</p><p></p><p>Good luck!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 341191, member: 1550"] Hi. So sorry you had to come here, but, yes, we understand. Does your son have a drug or alcohol problem? Is he in legal trouble? Did he finish school, have any skills, etc? Whatever the answers are, he is 26. You in my opinion should not be giving him any money at all. If you want to, I'd buy him some groceries and bring them to him, but he will not grow up unless he has to. As for "you'll answer to this" I would not respond to threats. The best thing you can do is to learn to detach, which isn't easy but is necessary. He isn't going to learn anything if dad and mom keep picking him up, although he's a grown up. And he obviously isn't motivated to work, and it's all the easier not to work when he knows you'll give him money. He lives in a car at times? That is his choice. He certainly CAN get a job, man up, and get a cheap place to live. He just won't do it, so he is choosing to be homeless. He is apparently no joy to live with either. You in my opinion should make sure YOU don't drown in his dysfunction. You need a life, friends, hobbies, to move forward. Concentrate on yourself, your hub, your other kids if you have any, your friends, and taking good care of yourself. So many of our kids drive us crazy when it's actually time for us to relax and finally live life for ourselves. I would do it. You can't change your son. He has to change himself. God great me the SERENITY to accept the things I can not change, (your son and his choices) The Courage to change the things I can, (Your response to his choices and your life focus) and the Wisdom to know the difference Good luck! [/QUOTE]
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