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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 346358" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>Glad you found us. Sorry you had to. It is frightening to have your child turn from a source of pride to a source of fear. If you read the archives and old posts you will know how much of your story we have lived. Sad to say none of us have "the" answer...because there really is not one answer.</p><p> </p><p>Addiction is ugly and rarely is it short lived. Many will say there is no advantage to seeking programs if your son is not</p><p>ready to accept responsibility for his issues. on the other hand there are</p><p>occasional success stories with early intervention. That choice has to be yours. I sent our grandson to two rehab programs. Department of Juvenile Justice sent him to a third. In retrospect I wish I had found the 2nd program first because there is a slight chance he would have faced his issues in a healthier way.</p><p>on the other hand I have no way of knowing if it would have changed the outcome.</p><p> </p><p>There was no violence in our family so we didn't have to involve law enforcement. After years of sharing this Board I do believe that there has to be a zero tolerance when harm is a factor. I'm thankful I didn't have to walk in those shoes.</p><p> </p><p>There is a window of opportunity prior to 18. You can take steps in hopes that he has an awakening. It is costly from a $ aspect as well as an emotional aspect. Even if your son</p><p>does not take a program to heart, he will have information</p><p>that might help him in the future.</p><p> </p><p>From the bottom of my heart, I wish you well and hope you</p><p>continue to seek the freedom of expression that the CD Board allows. I'm sorry you are walking in our shoes. DDD</p><p> </p><p>PS: I very strongly suggest that you get counseling pronto for your younger child. The depth of the impact needs to be addressed now and not years in the future. The "good" kids</p><p>stifle their needs and try to support the parents. It is not a healthy situation and frequently leads to later problems.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 346358, member: 35"] Glad you found us. Sorry you had to. It is frightening to have your child turn from a source of pride to a source of fear. If you read the archives and old posts you will know how much of your story we have lived. Sad to say none of us have "the" answer...because there really is not one answer. Addiction is ugly and rarely is it short lived. Many will say there is no advantage to seeking programs if your son is not ready to accept responsibility for his issues. on the other hand there are occasional success stories with early intervention. That choice has to be yours. I sent our grandson to two rehab programs. Department of Juvenile Justice sent him to a third. In retrospect I wish I had found the 2nd program first because there is a slight chance he would have faced his issues in a healthier way. on the other hand I have no way of knowing if it would have changed the outcome. There was no violence in our family so we didn't have to involve law enforcement. After years of sharing this Board I do believe that there has to be a zero tolerance when harm is a factor. I'm thankful I didn't have to walk in those shoes. There is a window of opportunity prior to 18. You can take steps in hopes that he has an awakening. It is costly from a $ aspect as well as an emotional aspect. Even if your son does not take a program to heart, he will have information that might help him in the future. From the bottom of my heart, I wish you well and hope you continue to seek the freedom of expression that the CD Board allows. I'm sorry you are walking in our shoes. DDD PS: I very strongly suggest that you get counseling pronto for your younger child. The depth of the impact needs to be addressed now and not years in the future. The "good" kids stifle their needs and try to support the parents. It is not a healthy situation and frequently leads to later problems. [/QUOTE]
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