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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 346524" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>If your insurance will pay for sixty days <strong>Go For It.</strong> Check out every residential program that your insurance company will cover and then research each facility. The most expensive residential treatment program (which I avoided due to costs initially) had excess donation funds that supplement our health insurance...and a payment plan based on your income for the balance.</p><p> </p><p>Will he become a sober living teen based on 60 days at a facility he does not want to go to? Probably not. Your family, however, will benefit from the lack of chaos. You will have time to keep researching options that you are comfortable with. Right now you are in turmoil (yes, we have all lived in fear for our child..and some in fear of their child) and the best choices can not be made when stress is</p><p>controlling your life. </p><p> </p><p>Even if he comes straight back home the same or worse for the experience he will have learned something. Maybe all he will learn is that heroin is deadly, maybe all he will learn is "tricks" from the other teens <strong>but </strong>he will learn something.</p><p>You, meanwhile, can learn to live without a racing heart or a flood of tears. You'll absolutely learn alot and will be able to figure out what your next steps will be before he comes home again. </p><p> </p><p>I have been part of the CD family for ten long years. Over and over again kids threaten to kill themselves or run away</p><p>or...or... To the best of my knowledge there have only been two deaths (gunshot and a terrible fall). Threats are a way to control parents, or attempt to. Don't get sucked into that</p><p>idea. The way he is going he is apt to die from addictions or violence associated with addictions. He is no longer your little boy. (I have never sobbed like I did when a caring counselor told me "stop hoping to get your boy back..your boy no longer exists, you are now the parent of an addict".</p><p>That man was right.)</p><p> </p><p>My post has brought tears to my eyes. Tears for you and for all of us. It's a terrible situation to adjust to but you can do it. Maybe you'll be one of the lucky ones who has a difficult child who "sees the light" with the daily addiction support team.</p><p>I am praying for you. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 346524, member: 35"] If your insurance will pay for sixty days [B]Go For It.[/B] Check out every residential program that your insurance company will cover and then research each facility. The most expensive residential treatment program (which I avoided due to costs initially) had excess donation funds that supplement our health insurance...and a payment plan based on your income for the balance. Will he become a sober living teen based on 60 days at a facility he does not want to go to? Probably not. Your family, however, will benefit from the lack of chaos. You will have time to keep researching options that you are comfortable with. Right now you are in turmoil (yes, we have all lived in fear for our child..and some in fear of their child) and the best choices can not be made when stress is controlling your life. Even if he comes straight back home the same or worse for the experience he will have learned something. Maybe all he will learn is that heroin is deadly, maybe all he will learn is "tricks" from the other teens [B]but [/B]he will learn something. You, meanwhile, can learn to live without a racing heart or a flood of tears. You'll absolutely learn alot and will be able to figure out what your next steps will be before he comes home again. I have been part of the CD family for ten long years. Over and over again kids threaten to kill themselves or run away or...or... To the best of my knowledge there have only been two deaths (gunshot and a terrible fall). Threats are a way to control parents, or attempt to. Don't get sucked into that idea. The way he is going he is apt to die from addictions or violence associated with addictions. He is no longer your little boy. (I have never sobbed like I did when a caring counselor told me "stop hoping to get your boy back..your boy no longer exists, you are now the parent of an addict". That man was right.) My post has brought tears to my eyes. Tears for you and for all of us. It's a terrible situation to adjust to but you can do it. Maybe you'll be one of the lucky ones who has a difficult child who "sees the light" with the daily addiction support team. I am praying for you. DDD [/QUOTE]
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