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<blockquote data-quote="Martie" data-source="post: 16277" data-attributes="member: 284"><p>Hello and welcome.</p><p></p><p>You have a major challenge with a child in this range of cognitive delay. He is bright enough to know he is not as bright as other people. Children with severe MR do no suffer this internal comparison because they don't compare themselves to others in the way your son can.</p><p></p><p>I wonder if reducing his level of frustration through positive interaction might help--think 3 to 4 year olds and what a child of this age might like to do. I am NOT suggesting his mental age is that of a 3 or 4 year old--but rather that you need play activities that are well BELOW his mental age so that he will feel positive and successful when he tries to interact with the environment.</p><p></p><p>How does he respond to verbal praise? Tangible rewards? Restrictions such as time-out, if you use them? When children with global delays get stuck in a negative "rut," it can be difficult to find things that turn out positively for the child and the parent.</p><p></p><p>If you asked him what he would do if he had three wishes, do you know what he would say? Sometimes finding out what a child really wants cannot be granted, but it may give insight into what appeals to the child. If a child's first wish is to go to Disney World, is it to meet Mickey Mouse, ride on fantasy rides, or stay in a hotel with a swimming pool or something else entirely...</p><p></p><p>Until you figure out what he would like to do, you cannot use the Premack Principle to reinforce him (Grandma's Law: do what I want and then we'll do what you want.) One way to discover what a child likes to do is watch him when he is unsupervised. However, in your current situation, that is not going to work. So, perhaps you could just ask him...</p><p></p><p>Maybe people who have younger children will have specific suggestions but I thought I would add a thought or two to my welcome.</p><p></p><p>Also, is your son in school? If so, does he have an IEP? If you want inofrmation on school issues, feel free to stop by the Special Education section of the board--sometimes problems at home are a reflection of problems at school and not the other way around as schools usually assume.</p><p></p><p>Welcome to our world.</p><p></p><p>Martie</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Martie, post: 16277, member: 284"] Hello and welcome. You have a major challenge with a child in this range of cognitive delay. He is bright enough to know he is not as bright as other people. Children with severe MR do no suffer this internal comparison because they don't compare themselves to others in the way your son can. I wonder if reducing his level of frustration through positive interaction might help--think 3 to 4 year olds and what a child of this age might like to do. I am NOT suggesting his mental age is that of a 3 or 4 year old--but rather that you need play activities that are well BELOW his mental age so that he will feel positive and successful when he tries to interact with the environment. How does he respond to verbal praise? Tangible rewards? Restrictions such as time-out, if you use them? When children with global delays get stuck in a negative "rut," it can be difficult to find things that turn out positively for the child and the parent. If you asked him what he would do if he had three wishes, do you know what he would say? Sometimes finding out what a child really wants cannot be granted, but it may give insight into what appeals to the child. If a child's first wish is to go to Disney World, is it to meet Mickey Mouse, ride on fantasy rides, or stay in a hotel with a swimming pool or something else entirely... Until you figure out what he would like to do, you cannot use the Premack Principle to reinforce him (Grandma's Law: do what I want and then we'll do what you want.) One way to discover what a child likes to do is watch him when he is unsupervised. However, in your current situation, that is not going to work. So, perhaps you could just ask him... Maybe people who have younger children will have specific suggestions but I thought I would add a thought or two to my welcome. Also, is your son in school? If so, does he have an IEP? If you want inofrmation on school issues, feel free to stop by the Special Education section of the board--sometimes problems at home are a reflection of problems at school and not the other way around as schools usually assume. Welcome to our world. Martie [/QUOTE]
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