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<blockquote data-quote="gafirewife" data-source="post: 298695" data-attributes="member: 7865"><p>Thank you both so much for the warm welcome!</p><p></p><p>To answer your questions... My daughter does not seem sensitive to many sensory changes, although she does complain that things are too loud sometimes. She did have a speech delay, but it was later found that fluid in her ears was not allowing her to hear and after surgery to correct that, she has made great strides in her language development. At this point, she is pretty much on track with others her age. As far as motor development, she reached almost all of her milestones at the right age, although she was a late walker, not starting until 16 months. </p><p></p><p>She does have good eye contact with people that she is comfortable around (like family and the couple of close friends she has) but she is very anxious, for lack of a better word, around others. She doesn't play well with kids in her class, usually preferring to play alone. We have noticed that she will generally find one person to "latch" onto in a situation (i.e. school) and usually feels safe and comfortable with that person. This is where I am thinking she may have a bit of social anxiety. She had many more problems in her preschool last year, not eating or using the restroom at all while she was there. She seems to have made some progress throughout the past few months to the point where she can at least function in a school setting, although still doesn't interact much with her peers.</p><p></p><p>As I said in my initial post, she hasn't had any behavioral problems at school at this point. At home, however, we have noticed a lot of problems with transition. She doesn't seem to "change gears" very well, often becoming frustrated or angry when asked to do so. She doesn't seem any more hyperactive than most other kids her age, she can sit and focus on an activity of her choosing for a good length of time. However, I don't know much about ADHD, so I will definitely try to do some research on that and see if any of the symptoms sound like her. She does have a big problem with controlling her anger, and at least once a day does fly into a rage, usually over something seemingly insignificant. These rages usually involve violence (mostly towards her siblings or pets that happen to be around) and a lot of hateful yelling towards everyone. Most of the times, these fits last for at least half an hour, during which point no one can really talk and get through to her. </p><p></p><p>There is a history of mental health problems on both sides of the family tree. I have been diagnosed with social anxiety, and my mom's side of the family all suffer from either bipolar disorder or depression (although those both seem to have skipped me). Her biological father's history is a bit sketchy. I do know that he was diagnosed with ADHD and was also placed in a psychiatric facility for several months when he was 7, due to severe behavioral problems and a violent attack towards another student at school (from what I can gather, he was "trying to kill the other student") Her father also has bipolar disorder. I'm not sure about the rest of his family's medical history, but I do know that both his mother and father, as well as both of his siblings do have substance abuse problems. I never saw any in him, though. </p><p></p><p>I am raising her with my second husband, who has been in the picture since before she was 2. Her biological father just recently signed over his rights to both girls, after being mostly absent for the past 3 years. My husband now is a great father, but we do disagree on how to discipline. His parents used spanking as the main form of discipline and he seems to think that this is the best approach. I tend to think that there are better ways, but after trying everything (including spanking), I am at my wit's end. She tends to behave slightly better for him, but she still has issues when he is around. </p><p></p><p>Okay, sorry for that being so long! Lots of information! I really do appreciate all of the tips, I know that they will be useful in the next few weeks, just trying to get through this stressful time until we can get her evaluated and see if there really is anything going on. </p><p></p><p>--Heather</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="gafirewife, post: 298695, member: 7865"] Thank you both so much for the warm welcome! To answer your questions... My daughter does not seem sensitive to many sensory changes, although she does complain that things are too loud sometimes. She did have a speech delay, but it was later found that fluid in her ears was not allowing her to hear and after surgery to correct that, she has made great strides in her language development. At this point, she is pretty much on track with others her age. As far as motor development, she reached almost all of her milestones at the right age, although she was a late walker, not starting until 16 months. She does have good eye contact with people that she is comfortable around (like family and the couple of close friends she has) but she is very anxious, for lack of a better word, around others. She doesn't play well with kids in her class, usually preferring to play alone. We have noticed that she will generally find one person to "latch" onto in a situation (i.e. school) and usually feels safe and comfortable with that person. This is where I am thinking she may have a bit of social anxiety. She had many more problems in her preschool last year, not eating or using the restroom at all while she was there. She seems to have made some progress throughout the past few months to the point where she can at least function in a school setting, although still doesn't interact much with her peers. As I said in my initial post, she hasn't had any behavioral problems at school at this point. At home, however, we have noticed a lot of problems with transition. She doesn't seem to "change gears" very well, often becoming frustrated or angry when asked to do so. She doesn't seem any more hyperactive than most other kids her age, she can sit and focus on an activity of her choosing for a good length of time. However, I don't know much about ADHD, so I will definitely try to do some research on that and see if any of the symptoms sound like her. She does have a big problem with controlling her anger, and at least once a day does fly into a rage, usually over something seemingly insignificant. These rages usually involve violence (mostly towards her siblings or pets that happen to be around) and a lot of hateful yelling towards everyone. Most of the times, these fits last for at least half an hour, during which point no one can really talk and get through to her. There is a history of mental health problems on both sides of the family tree. I have been diagnosed with social anxiety, and my mom's side of the family all suffer from either bipolar disorder or depression (although those both seem to have skipped me). Her biological father's history is a bit sketchy. I do know that he was diagnosed with ADHD and was also placed in a psychiatric facility for several months when he was 7, due to severe behavioral problems and a violent attack towards another student at school (from what I can gather, he was "trying to kill the other student") Her father also has bipolar disorder. I'm not sure about the rest of his family's medical history, but I do know that both his mother and father, as well as both of his siblings do have substance abuse problems. I never saw any in him, though. I am raising her with my second husband, who has been in the picture since before she was 2. Her biological father just recently signed over his rights to both girls, after being mostly absent for the past 3 years. My husband now is a great father, but we do disagree on how to discipline. His parents used spanking as the main form of discipline and he seems to think that this is the best approach. I tend to think that there are better ways, but after trying everything (including spanking), I am at my wit's end. She tends to behave slightly better for him, but she still has issues when he is around. Okay, sorry for that being so long! Lots of information! I really do appreciate all of the tips, I know that they will be useful in the next few weeks, just trying to get through this stressful time until we can get her evaluated and see if there really is anything going on. --Heather [/QUOTE]
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