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<blockquote data-quote="Lass" data-source="post: 36306" data-attributes="member: 3645"><p>Thanks for repling back</p><p>Ok my son has just turned 13,</p><p>ok ill explain best i can,when he was little he didnt sleep,he used to bang his head of walls and floors when he was at the terrible 2's,when he started playgroup he hut a teacher as he didnt want to do something with her,he had a stutter at age of 4 but this eventualy stopped but he had speach problems and got help at school but was stopped as they said he was ok</p><p>When he started school he didnt listen very good,stuggled with work,homework was a nightmare,fighting and couldnt explain himself was aslways dont know he still does this even now,when he was 5 i asked him to be refered to a pscoligist to find out why he behaved the way he did they just said he was polite and did listen,so it was stopped,as time went past he got worse at home and school so we went back again this time to be told he had conduct disorder which i found out later in a letter from another specialist who came to my home 3 times and did an asesment wich he mentioned he was on borderline ADHD,signs of autism,nothing else done</p><p>He was assed for school work when he was 9 his reading,writing was of a 7yr and school pscoligist mentioned dsylexia nothing they could do as nearest help was 40 miles away so this was dropped</p><p>When he was 9 he was expelled from the school due to him banging his head trashing the room,many ocations before this i used to get a phone call to come and ge him due to his behaviour being silly in class,shouting out,anoying others,repeating words ,shouting,refusing probably know all the signs,even sometimes he wasnt allwed back till 5 mins at luch and 5 mins before 9 so he wouldnt fight,the other chirldren picked on him knew he was an easy target and he would get blame one time my son even went and said might as well take blame as no one believes me an example he stuck up for a lad whos shoes was getting thrown around he got it and gave back brilliant i said but the other boys mouthed off at him he stuck up his finger and he was in trouble,the way the teacher disiplined him was by taking him into another class and asked if they wanted a lyer hence they said no,my son lyed 4 times but caught out as she said what finger and he did it ,well when this was mentioned my husband went mad at a meeting with them and said this did not help his self estemm to her reply supose not,i used to be told he wernt happy,a sad child and made me feel like a bad mum</p><p>ok im blabbering</p><p>When he was expelled he was put to another school but in a room with a teacher who is supose to help children with behaviour challanges ill call it,this did not work so he had one to one and even this he pressed the buttons,he attacked teacher due to him not wanting to do things and yet again expelled for a week under the understanding he got back and did what he was told so he got back</p><p>He was in this school for 2 yrs.He was only in a limated time,if he did some work he would get a reward by playing a game,a book or something he would like to do for a limated time</p><p>Ok he is now in secondary school started aug last year,he has been expelled once for a week and today he is suspended</p><p>When he first started he was put into main he was fine for a month then boom he relised aint be easy he said i cant play as first few weeks is settling in,he is now in a room and has one to one even this is only a few hrs one day he goes in 9 till 11 and in this time he can exploid ill call it,</p><p>Now as for medications he isnt on any we have never been offered in fact was told there is no medication in uk for this,i refused to go back to pscoligist as in all the time we saw them it was me and hubby eplaining what was happening at home and school,they saw him 4 times since he was 5,last time we went they said he had ODD,agression but wouldnt put it in writing,i asked for this as i blame myself and needed it for th school,i went to docs 2 weeks ago and got her to look up his notes and in black and white startes he has Sever ODD,Agression and something else,i will be getting a copy of this as i forgot to ask last time i saw her,the school pscoligist is getting him refered back to these people to help him wich he should have got yrs ago,</p><p>Myself have been let down by so called experts,social workers ,docs but i am still here fighting way for my son</p><p></p><p>ok as to his dad this is his step dad,he has always been firmer than me and dont give in to him and my son knows this and dont bother trying as he knows he wont get far,as for myself i wasnt consitent,i am weak due to my depression and no much confidence and he knows my buttons to press </p><p>sorry this is very long,hope i aint bored yas,there is more to the story but better stop,oh and sorry for ma spelling</p><p>thanks for reading and am glad i have somewhere to come and read others storries and even hopefully find suport,tips and friends</p><p>hugs to yas</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lass, post: 36306, member: 3645"] Thanks for repling back Ok my son has just turned 13, ok ill explain best i can,when he was little he didnt sleep,he used to bang his head of walls and floors when he was at the terrible 2's,when he started playgroup he hut a teacher as he didnt want to do something with her,he had a stutter at age of 4 but this eventualy stopped but he had speach problems and got help at school but was stopped as they said he was ok When he started school he didnt listen very good,stuggled with work,homework was a nightmare,fighting and couldnt explain himself was aslways dont know he still does this even now,when he was 5 i asked him to be refered to a pscoligist to find out why he behaved the way he did they just said he was polite and did listen,so it was stopped,as time went past he got worse at home and school so we went back again this time to be told he had conduct disorder which i found out later in a letter from another specialist who came to my home 3 times and did an asesment wich he mentioned he was on borderline ADHD,signs of autism,nothing else done He was assed for school work when he was 9 his reading,writing was of a 7yr and school pscoligist mentioned dsylexia nothing they could do as nearest help was 40 miles away so this was dropped When he was 9 he was expelled from the school due to him banging his head trashing the room,many ocations before this i used to get a phone call to come and ge him due to his behaviour being silly in class,shouting out,anoying others,repeating words ,shouting,refusing probably know all the signs,even sometimes he wasnt allwed back till 5 mins at luch and 5 mins before 9 so he wouldnt fight,the other chirldren picked on him knew he was an easy target and he would get blame one time my son even went and said might as well take blame as no one believes me an example he stuck up for a lad whos shoes was getting thrown around he got it and gave back brilliant i said but the other boys mouthed off at him he stuck up his finger and he was in trouble,the way the teacher disiplined him was by taking him into another class and asked if they wanted a lyer hence they said no,my son lyed 4 times but caught out as she said what finger and he did it ,well when this was mentioned my husband went mad at a meeting with them and said this did not help his self estemm to her reply supose not,i used to be told he wernt happy,a sad child and made me feel like a bad mum ok im blabbering When he was expelled he was put to another school but in a room with a teacher who is supose to help children with behaviour challanges ill call it,this did not work so he had one to one and even this he pressed the buttons,he attacked teacher due to him not wanting to do things and yet again expelled for a week under the understanding he got back and did what he was told so he got back He was in this school for 2 yrs.He was only in a limated time,if he did some work he would get a reward by playing a game,a book or something he would like to do for a limated time Ok he is now in secondary school started aug last year,he has been expelled once for a week and today he is suspended When he first started he was put into main he was fine for a month then boom he relised aint be easy he said i cant play as first few weeks is settling in,he is now in a room and has one to one even this is only a few hrs one day he goes in 9 till 11 and in this time he can exploid ill call it, Now as for medications he isnt on any we have never been offered in fact was told there is no medication in uk for this,i refused to go back to pscoligist as in all the time we saw them it was me and hubby eplaining what was happening at home and school,they saw him 4 times since he was 5,last time we went they said he had ODD,agression but wouldnt put it in writing,i asked for this as i blame myself and needed it for th school,i went to docs 2 weeks ago and got her to look up his notes and in black and white startes he has Sever ODD,Agression and something else,i will be getting a copy of this as i forgot to ask last time i saw her,the school pscoligist is getting him refered back to these people to help him wich he should have got yrs ago, Myself have been let down by so called experts,social workers ,docs but i am still here fighting way for my son ok as to his dad this is his step dad,he has always been firmer than me and dont give in to him and my son knows this and dont bother trying as he knows he wont get far,as for myself i wasnt consitent,i am weak due to my depression and no much confidence and he knows my buttons to press sorry this is very long,hope i aint bored yas,there is more to the story but better stop,oh and sorry for ma spelling thanks for reading and am glad i have somewhere to come and read others storries and even hopefully find suport,tips and friends hugs to yas [/QUOTE]
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