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<blockquote data-quote="loopy" data-source="post: 427991" data-attributes="member: 11955"><p>Thank you for your replies and welcome. It is just so good to find a place where people can understand.</p><p>My ds 1 is on a mission to destroy us. He is also sucking in ds 2, who still lives at home. ds2 has alcohol problems and so ds1 makes a point of giving him drinks and money whenever they meet in bars in the town. This serves ds1 well. He gets to look big in front of his friends, giving his lil´ brother money and drinks ( because his adoptive parents are too mean and evil to provide). He also gets to cause even more chaos at home even though he no longer lives with us. We are the ones who have to deal with ds2 when he comes home drunk. Ds1 gets to bother us, and ensure that his brother is also on the wrong path , all in one hit. I believe that ds1 wants to destroy all of us. He blames us for everything. He told me to my face that his childhood was ´hell´. He refuses to see that his bullying, stealing, lying and abuse of his sisters may have caused a problem or two also!!</p><p>Although I have a great circle of friends here I really would like to leave and start somewhere new. I dont believe that ds1 will ever give me peace. I am tired of the people who want to believe him. My husband doesnt agree. He wants to stay and tough it out. He seems to think that the truth always wins in the end, but Im not so sure. People dont know what they are dealing with when they get sucked into planet ds1. I believe him to be a psychopath. When I look back over his childhood, he always just took care of himself. If another kid got hurt, it meant nothing to him. No empathy, no remorse , nothing. Just took what he could. But if anyone outside the home called by, he would change in an instant. He could turn on the charm, ask how they were, fetch them a drink etc. Only a very few people outside our family have seen him minus the mask. </p><p>I feel like I am in a war, and I long for peace. The two youngest are still at school and although they have issues, they do little things for me and I enjoy being around them. They too are hurt by ds1. The youngest is just 9 and she cant understand why he wont call her. Ds3 also Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) is also still at home and like ds2 refuses to find work. They are 20 and 22. Another issue I need to be dealing with. Honestly, I would probably insist they find work or leave, but I just know that DS1 will use this, and go around saying , see, what I said is true - they hate us kids and just want us all out of the house!</p><p>Im reading all your stories here, and although its good to feel Im not alone, its soooo sad to know how many are suffering with the behaviours of their children.</p><p>I would just love one day when nothing bad happens.</p><p>love to you all,</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="loopy, post: 427991, member: 11955"] Thank you for your replies and welcome. It is just so good to find a place where people can understand. My ds 1 is on a mission to destroy us. He is also sucking in ds 2, who still lives at home. ds2 has alcohol problems and so ds1 makes a point of giving him drinks and money whenever they meet in bars in the town. This serves ds1 well. He gets to look big in front of his friends, giving his lil´ brother money and drinks ( because his adoptive parents are too mean and evil to provide). He also gets to cause even more chaos at home even though he no longer lives with us. We are the ones who have to deal with ds2 when he comes home drunk. Ds1 gets to bother us, and ensure that his brother is also on the wrong path , all in one hit. I believe that ds1 wants to destroy all of us. He blames us for everything. He told me to my face that his childhood was ´hell´. He refuses to see that his bullying, stealing, lying and abuse of his sisters may have caused a problem or two also!! Although I have a great circle of friends here I really would like to leave and start somewhere new. I dont believe that ds1 will ever give me peace. I am tired of the people who want to believe him. My husband doesnt agree. He wants to stay and tough it out. He seems to think that the truth always wins in the end, but Im not so sure. People dont know what they are dealing with when they get sucked into planet ds1. I believe him to be a psychopath. When I look back over his childhood, he always just took care of himself. If another kid got hurt, it meant nothing to him. No empathy, no remorse , nothing. Just took what he could. But if anyone outside the home called by, he would change in an instant. He could turn on the charm, ask how they were, fetch them a drink etc. Only a very few people outside our family have seen him minus the mask. I feel like I am in a war, and I long for peace. The two youngest are still at school and although they have issues, they do little things for me and I enjoy being around them. They too are hurt by ds1. The youngest is just 9 and she cant understand why he wont call her. Ds3 also Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) is also still at home and like ds2 refuses to find work. They are 20 and 22. Another issue I need to be dealing with. Honestly, I would probably insist they find work or leave, but I just know that DS1 will use this, and go around saying , see, what I said is true - they hate us kids and just want us all out of the house! Im reading all your stories here, and although its good to feel Im not alone, its soooo sad to know how many are suffering with the behaviours of their children. I would just love one day when nothing bad happens. love to you all, [/QUOTE]
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