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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 578047" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>KTLC is right....</p><p></p><p>Challenge your own assumptions...</p><p></p><p></p><p>What is the real reason he isn't putting away his laundry?</p><p></p><p></p><p>Perhaps he perceives the world differently than you?</p><p>Or... he may be really confused - as my difficult child was.</p><p>At school, when he tried to tell the truth (he couldn't do X, or Y was too hard), he was treated as a liar, at first nicely (they call it "encouragement"), then by force. So, he learned to tell them what they wanted to hear - which meant telling lies to do so - and was rewarded for it. SO... now, what is a lie and what is the truth? We're STILL working that out 10 years later.</p><p></p><p></p><p>If he's an Aspie... the approach of traditional therapists just doesn't work AT ALL. been there done that.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 578047, member: 11791"] KTLC is right.... Challenge your own assumptions... What is the real reason he isn't putting away his laundry? Perhaps he perceives the world differently than you? Or... he may be really confused - as my difficult child was. At school, when he tried to tell the truth (he couldn't do X, or Y was too hard), he was treated as a liar, at first nicely (they call it "encouragement"), then by force. So, he learned to tell them what they wanted to hear - which meant telling lies to do so - and was rewarded for it. SO... now, what is a lie and what is the truth? We're STILL working that out 10 years later. If he's an Aspie... the approach of traditional therapists just doesn't work AT ALL. been there done that. [/QUOTE]
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