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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 622529" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>Bluebell what you describe is very similar to what was going on in our home when our daughter was 17-19. We called the police everytime she got violent and they began to know us and told difficult child that they would believe us over her anytime because of what they saw. By the time she turned 18 we gave her one last chance and paid for her to go to college. Big mistake as she was arrested within 6 weeks for drug and alochol use and suspended. We kicked her out of the house a couple months later. We told her at age 18 she was an adult and we no longer had to put up with her abuse. It went downhill from there for a couple years.</p><p></p><p>From what you describe it sounds lie your son is using spice. From what I have learned it does cause the person to become beligerent. He may also be combining pills with it. Health insurance now has to provide for treatment for substance abuse. Have you checked into yours? When our daughter did turn 18 we gave her a choice, either go into treatment or find somewhere else to live. She did go to treatment, relapsed, went for treatment again, left and lived on her own losing jobs and getting into legal trouble until she finally got tired of living like that and is slowly trying to rebuild her life.</p><p></p><p>This age is a very difficult one. It may be that you will have to wait out the time until he turns 18 and then give him the choice we gave our daughter. In the meatime you will have to protect yourself against any legal problems, call the police anytime he escalates and never touch him. And the biggest suggestion I have is to find a support group. I found a FA families anonymous group that was very helpful and a couple al-anon groups were also. I also belong to a family group from one of the sober houses in our area which has been a tremendous help to me. It doesn;t happen overnight, you dont detach that quickly. It takes time and a lot of work, but the more you can detach the better able you will be to help him when he finally decides he needs help.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 622529, member: 59"] Bluebell what you describe is very similar to what was going on in our home when our daughter was 17-19. We called the police everytime she got violent and they began to know us and told difficult child that they would believe us over her anytime because of what they saw. By the time she turned 18 we gave her one last chance and paid for her to go to college. Big mistake as she was arrested within 6 weeks for drug and alochol use and suspended. We kicked her out of the house a couple months later. We told her at age 18 she was an adult and we no longer had to put up with her abuse. It went downhill from there for a couple years. From what you describe it sounds lie your son is using spice. From what I have learned it does cause the person to become beligerent. He may also be combining pills with it. Health insurance now has to provide for treatment for substance abuse. Have you checked into yours? When our daughter did turn 18 we gave her a choice, either go into treatment or find somewhere else to live. She did go to treatment, relapsed, went for treatment again, left and lived on her own losing jobs and getting into legal trouble until she finally got tired of living like that and is slowly trying to rebuild her life. This age is a very difficult one. It may be that you will have to wait out the time until he turns 18 and then give him the choice we gave our daughter. In the meatime you will have to protect yourself against any legal problems, call the police anytime he escalates and never touch him. And the biggest suggestion I have is to find a support group. I found a FA families anonymous group that was very helpful and a couple al-anon groups were also. I also belong to a family group from one of the sober houses in our area which has been a tremendous help to me. It doesn;t happen overnight, you dont detach that quickly. It takes time and a lot of work, but the more you can detach the better able you will be to help him when he finally decides he needs help. [/QUOTE]
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