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New Husband's daughter making me unwell.
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<blockquote data-quote="elizabrary" data-source="post: 748942" data-attributes="member: 11235"><p>Well this sounds like a horrible situation. I'm sorry you're going through it. Have you had an honest discussion with your husband about your suspicions of drug use by his daughter? That's where I would start. I would also let him know that her behavior is negatively affecting you and tell him what you would like to see happen. Be as kind as possible as it sounds like he is in a bad place himself. Maybe together you can work out some boundaries to enforce with his daughter and support one another in the process. If you decide to do this you have to set boundaries with her about behavior and consequences. I would write them out, go over them with her and have her sign them. Things like- if you become disrespectful or yell you may not be in our house. If you steal from us we will call the police. We will not give you any cash. If you stay in our home you need to have a job in 2 weeks. Once you set those boundaries you must follow through on them. It is hard at first and she will likely up the ante to test you. </p><p></p><p>Once you have a talk with him if he is not receptive then you are going to have to focus on yourself and maintaining your health and sanity. If I were you I would let him know (if he doesn't plan to enforce boundaries) that you do not want her staying in your home and if he lets her you will stay elsewhere. I would also let him know you will call the police if her behavior is threatening or if she steals anything from you. Sending peace to you. I know you are in a difficult spot.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="elizabrary, post: 748942, member: 11235"] Well this sounds like a horrible situation. I'm sorry you're going through it. Have you had an honest discussion with your husband about your suspicions of drug use by his daughter? That's where I would start. I would also let him know that her behavior is negatively affecting you and tell him what you would like to see happen. Be as kind as possible as it sounds like he is in a bad place himself. Maybe together you can work out some boundaries to enforce with his daughter and support one another in the process. If you decide to do this you have to set boundaries with her about behavior and consequences. I would write them out, go over them with her and have her sign them. Things like- if you become disrespectful or yell you may not be in our house. If you steal from us we will call the police. We will not give you any cash. If you stay in our home you need to have a job in 2 weeks. Once you set those boundaries you must follow through on them. It is hard at first and she will likely up the ante to test you. Once you have a talk with him if he is not receptive then you are going to have to focus on yourself and maintaining your health and sanity. If I were you I would let him know (if he doesn't plan to enforce boundaries) that you do not want her staying in your home and if he lets her you will stay elsewhere. I would also let him know you will call the police if her behavior is threatening or if she steals anything from you. Sending peace to you. I know you are in a difficult spot. [/QUOTE]
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