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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 12801" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>WID</p><p></p><p>In your last post your son sounds alot like my T who is Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD). Actually, if we put the two of them in the same room they'd probably never bother to talk to us again. lol T has the same obsession with Star Trek ect.</p><p></p><p>I only posted a short welcme before because I wanted to give some thought to what I say.</p><p></p><p>My difficult child T is the reason I found this board. It was right around your son's age, too. I was desperate for answers. And T was suddenly out of control. His behaviors went from unusual to totally off the wall. Frankly my visions of T for the future at that time were terrifying. I thought my son had just taken the wild plunge over the deep end. Although T had seen an army of specialists over the years, at 13 he had no dxes except a vision problem.</p><p></p><p>I kept looking and eventually found a wonderful neuro at a children's hospital. We dropped T's psychiatrist. Neuro specialized in autistic spectrum and tourettes. This doctor had answers to my questions. I learned that there are just some things that T was unable to do, and no matter what I tried to get him to do it, he will still be unable. There were other things that needed the approach changed. MY approach, not T's. Like the simple task of cleaning his room. T can't do it unless given short direction about every 10-15 mins. If I leave him alone to do it, he'll pick something up and get destracted and completely forget about the cleaning. Tasks had to be broken down into much smaller steps. Homework we eventually tossed out the window and let be the school's issue with T.</p><p></p><p>T is 20 yrs old now. When I look back at how he was at your son's age I wonder how I ever got us thru it. Most of his issues back then were exacerbated by puberty hormones surging thru his body. Some of it was seizure related. Some of it we never did figure out what it was.</p><p></p><p>T still has his Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) issues. He always will. But as an "adult" he is not as bad as he was when younger. Somewhere along the way I learned that I couldn't fix T. He is who he is, and most of the time that is a pretty great kid. He still lives in his fantasy world. But he can also function pretty well in this world too. </p><p></p><p>I guess what I'm trying to say is that from what you described in your last post, alot of your difficult child's behaviors sound PDDish more than anything else. in my opinion If I were to rock T's "world" too much he'd become awfully defiant too. If I pushed too hard he tended to fall apart. This wasn't an easy thing for me to learn as a strict parent. I can be stubborn too. lol I had to refocus on making T functional as a child/adult. I eventually learned T was never going to be *normal*. (that was devistating) </p><p></p><p>Parenting a difficult child is a learning process. I'm still learning. The other parents here are still learning. Heck the professionals are still learning.</p><p></p><p>((((hugs))))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 12801, member: 84"] WID In your last post your son sounds alot like my T who is Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD). Actually, if we put the two of them in the same room they'd probably never bother to talk to us again. lol T has the same obsession with Star Trek ect. I only posted a short welcme before because I wanted to give some thought to what I say. My difficult child T is the reason I found this board. It was right around your son's age, too. I was desperate for answers. And T was suddenly out of control. His behaviors went from unusual to totally off the wall. Frankly my visions of T for the future at that time were terrifying. I thought my son had just taken the wild plunge over the deep end. Although T had seen an army of specialists over the years, at 13 he had no dxes except a vision problem. I kept looking and eventually found a wonderful neuro at a children's hospital. We dropped T's psychiatrist. Neuro specialized in autistic spectrum and tourettes. This doctor had answers to my questions. I learned that there are just some things that T was unable to do, and no matter what I tried to get him to do it, he will still be unable. There were other things that needed the approach changed. MY approach, not T's. Like the simple task of cleaning his room. T can't do it unless given short direction about every 10-15 mins. If I leave him alone to do it, he'll pick something up and get destracted and completely forget about the cleaning. Tasks had to be broken down into much smaller steps. Homework we eventually tossed out the window and let be the school's issue with T. T is 20 yrs old now. When I look back at how he was at your son's age I wonder how I ever got us thru it. Most of his issues back then were exacerbated by puberty hormones surging thru his body. Some of it was seizure related. Some of it we never did figure out what it was. T still has his Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) issues. He always will. But as an "adult" he is not as bad as he was when younger. Somewhere along the way I learned that I couldn't fix T. He is who he is, and most of the time that is a pretty great kid. He still lives in his fantasy world. But he can also function pretty well in this world too. I guess what I'm trying to say is that from what you described in your last post, alot of your difficult child's behaviors sound PDDish more than anything else. in my opinion If I were to rock T's "world" too much he'd become awfully defiant too. If I pushed too hard he tended to fall apart. This wasn't an easy thing for me to learn as a strict parent. I can be stubborn too. lol I had to refocus on making T functional as a child/adult. I eventually learned T was never going to be *normal*. (that was devistating) Parenting a difficult child is a learning process. I'm still learning. The other parents here are still learning. Heck the professionals are still learning. ((((hugs)))) [/QUOTE]
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