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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 495398" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>Hi. sorry for your situation, it sounds very scary.</p><p></p><p>I have several thoughts:</p><p></p><p>1. Sounds like she does really know what is right...so not allowing her to be with him may push her to do what she really doesn't want to do just because it is natural to rebel (especially the good girls who were rule followers and have really new found ideas about this)</p><p></p><p>2. Since this is serious, a huge risk for abuse...... Find numbers and locations of domestic abuse centers near her so she has a plan for an emergency. Remind her to always have her phone with her and to make sure she has the number under a relatives name so she can quickly dial it. </p><p></p><p>3. Keep your enemies close. Make friends with him, keep tabs on him, etc. </p><p></p><p>4. any chance she can go back to the boarding school instead of totally giving up the career path? </p><p></p><p>5 nothing is forever..... there are other ways to do things, other ways to be fulfilled. to have the pressure of do this now or your life will not be as successful is a lot for any child, even a gifted one. I am not saying you have done anything wrong or that she shouldn't try...FOR SURE not saying that. Just think your thoughts of having her come back can be realistic if needed. It will take some self talk and talk with her about it not being the end of the world. </p><p></p><p>We have had discussions on this board about giving up dreams we have for our kids... and having to help them give up some dreams... or at least the plan for obtaining that dream in a certain way. In life things come up and it is a good...no,.... a great lesson to help our kids learn that there is always another way. </p><p></p><p>You sound like truly amazing parents. It takes a lot to sacrifice for a gifted child. whether it is music, business, theater, skating, gymnastics, whatever... very very special that you have encouraged her and supported her. She is a lucky and loved girl.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 495398, member: 12886"] Hi. sorry for your situation, it sounds very scary. I have several thoughts: 1. Sounds like she does really know what is right...so not allowing her to be with him may push her to do what she really doesn't want to do just because it is natural to rebel (especially the good girls who were rule followers and have really new found ideas about this) 2. Since this is serious, a huge risk for abuse...... Find numbers and locations of domestic abuse centers near her so she has a plan for an emergency. Remind her to always have her phone with her and to make sure she has the number under a relatives name so she can quickly dial it. 3. Keep your enemies close. Make friends with him, keep tabs on him, etc. 4. any chance she can go back to the boarding school instead of totally giving up the career path? 5 nothing is forever..... there are other ways to do things, other ways to be fulfilled. to have the pressure of do this now or your life will not be as successful is a lot for any child, even a gifted one. I am not saying you have done anything wrong or that she shouldn't try...FOR SURE not saying that. Just think your thoughts of having her come back can be realistic if needed. It will take some self talk and talk with her about it not being the end of the world. We have had discussions on this board about giving up dreams we have for our kids... and having to help them give up some dreams... or at least the plan for obtaining that dream in a certain way. In life things come up and it is a good...no,.... a great lesson to help our kids learn that there is always another way. You sound like truly amazing parents. It takes a lot to sacrifice for a gifted child. whether it is music, business, theater, skating, gymnastics, whatever... very very special that you have encouraged her and supported her. She is a lucky and loved girl. [/QUOTE]
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