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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 492177"><p>The drug testing is tricky.... I think the hair test has to be a hair follicle test, which means say getting hair out of a hairbrush or something may not be enough. So my guess is that is going to be a tough way to do it. What I did when my son was 14 was he seemed lethargic, unmotivated, tired, strange sleeping habits etc. So I told him I was concerned that he had anemia and i took him for a physical. I told the doctor all the symptoms I was seeing. He took me aside and said he wanted to drug test him. (That is what I wanted of course which is why I made sure he knew what symptoms I was concerned about). So they drug tested him. When the results came back the dr did not want to tell me the results but instead spoke to my son... however I knew enough that they had to be positive and so then I asked my son about it... that is how we definitely knew he was using pot. </p><p></p><p>Your son is older so first of all the doctor won't have to ask your permission and won't be able to tell you the results... but taking him for a physical might be a way to open up the conversation. Given that he is avoiding drug testing it does sound like he is using. Maybe at a doctors visit he will be asked and then will tell them he will test positive. The good thing is pot stays in your system for a month so it does show up in regular pot users. Other stuff won't necessarily.</p><p></p><p>And yes to the concerns about his relationship with a 14 year old. I would check the laws in your state about that... I think in most states 14 is under the age of consent and you may need to find the laws and sit your son down and show it to him... he needs to understand the risk he is taking. I worried about this with my son although in fact his gfs were always his age but he would get angry with me because I always wanted to know how old they were.</p><p></p><p>TL</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 492177"] The drug testing is tricky.... I think the hair test has to be a hair follicle test, which means say getting hair out of a hairbrush or something may not be enough. So my guess is that is going to be a tough way to do it. What I did when my son was 14 was he seemed lethargic, unmotivated, tired, strange sleeping habits etc. So I told him I was concerned that he had anemia and i took him for a physical. I told the doctor all the symptoms I was seeing. He took me aside and said he wanted to drug test him. (That is what I wanted of course which is why I made sure he knew what symptoms I was concerned about). So they drug tested him. When the results came back the dr did not want to tell me the results but instead spoke to my son... however I knew enough that they had to be positive and so then I asked my son about it... that is how we definitely knew he was using pot. Your son is older so first of all the doctor won't have to ask your permission and won't be able to tell you the results... but taking him for a physical might be a way to open up the conversation. Given that he is avoiding drug testing it does sound like he is using. Maybe at a doctors visit he will be asked and then will tell them he will test positive. The good thing is pot stays in your system for a month so it does show up in regular pot users. Other stuff won't necessarily. And yes to the concerns about his relationship with a 14 year old. I would check the laws in your state about that... I think in most states 14 is under the age of consent and you may need to find the laws and sit your son down and show it to him... he needs to understand the risk he is taking. I worried about this with my son although in fact his gfs were always his age but he would get angry with me because I always wanted to know how old they were. TL [/QUOTE]
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