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<blockquote data-quote="SeaGenieTx" data-source="post: 668011" data-attributes="member: 18773"><p>Well said Copabanana! I totally agree with you where you said:</p><p><em></em></p><p><em>They have to find their solutions themselves. </em></p><p></p><p><em>Setting firm boundaries helps them (and us.) These are rules I have for myself:</em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>Do not permit violence or abuse or robbing or disrespect by my son in my house. Do not accept threats of self-harm. Call the police.</em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>He pays his own way. He lives independently. Non-negotiable.</em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>No money, no buying stuff, no getting him out of scrapes or debt. (there may be an exception, but not usually.)"</em></p><p></p><p>Setting firm boundaries is very, very difficult. I've caved on many occasions. I've warned my son about disrespecting me and "my house, my rules". Went in one ear and out the other. I bailed him out of jail 3 times, will never do that again.</p><p></p><p>Biggest words of wisdom from me: They lie, lie, lie and use manipulation and guilt, know how to play on our emotions to get what they want. Took me a while to see thru all this but now I'm done and learned my lesson. My son is out, he cannot live under my roof, he will never disrespect me again. Until he gives up drugs, has a full-time job or is in school full-time, we have no relationship. You can't negotiate with addicts.</p><p></p><p>He has to be out on his own, clean up or hit rock bottom. Of course everything is MY fault since I kicked him out... he'll use that excuse forever. Not my problem anymore. He's 23, almost 24. Can't blame his momma forever. Time for him to deal with life and for me to keep up those boundaries and pray to God he doesn't end up dead or in jail again. It's the hardest thing I've ever done but if I don't detach and keep enabling him - then it is MY fault.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SeaGenieTx, post: 668011, member: 18773"] Well said Copabanana! I totally agree with you where you said: [I] They have to find their solutions themselves. [/I] [I]Setting firm boundaries helps them (and us.) These are rules I have for myself: Do not permit violence or abuse or robbing or disrespect by my son in my house. Do not accept threats of self-harm. Call the police. He pays his own way. He lives independently. Non-negotiable. No money, no buying stuff, no getting him out of scrapes or debt. (there may be an exception, but not usually.)"[/I] Setting firm boundaries is very, very difficult. I've caved on many occasions. I've warned my son about disrespecting me and "my house, my rules". Went in one ear and out the other. I bailed him out of jail 3 times, will never do that again. Biggest words of wisdom from me: They lie, lie, lie and use manipulation and guilt, know how to play on our emotions to get what they want. Took me a while to see thru all this but now I'm done and learned my lesson. My son is out, he cannot live under my roof, he will never disrespect me again. Until he gives up drugs, has a full-time job or is in school full-time, we have no relationship. You can't negotiate with addicts. He has to be out on his own, clean up or hit rock bottom. Of course everything is MY fault since I kicked him out... he'll use that excuse forever. Not my problem anymore. He's 23, almost 24. Can't blame his momma forever. Time for him to deal with life and for me to keep up those boundaries and pray to God he doesn't end up dead or in jail again. It's the hardest thing I've ever done but if I don't detach and keep enabling him - then it is MY fault. [/QUOTE]
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