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<blockquote data-quote="2much2recover" data-source="post: 648021" data-attributes="member: 18366"><p>Welcome Estranged. I just wanted to add what a lot of people don't understand about domestic violence. For some reason people only believe that domestic violence happens between spouses/partners and never accept that the same types of domestic violence issues are coming from their own children. The types of behavior covered under DV include: physical, mental and emotional abuse, verbal abuse, sexual abuse, and finally financial abuse. Just because he (may) have suffered some kind of abuse in the past does not make it OK for him to abuse you. The domestic Violence Centers take all domestic abuse situations seriously and as was previously posted provides counseling and safety for those times when your son is being abusive. I also agree that with a violent MAN, even one that is your son, you have to provide for your own safety and security first! You have a RIGHT to a peaceful and stress free life. </p><p>If I were you I wouldn't worry about your son not taking you up on the therapy. I offered the same for my daughter and all I paid for mostly was missed appointments. Also try not to offer to your son things that strain your budget - you are giving him mixed signals that you have the money but you are only willing to part with it if he does what you tell him to do with it. I say our (adult) children have no business knowing what our financial business is and the best thing we can do is to mirror their "I'm broke" back to them because if you don't they will always turn to you with another financial situation that only you can fix. Seems these kind of people aren't happy until they have picked the carcass! LOL <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> </p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/2012/welcomecat.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":welcomecat:" title="welcomecat :welcomecat:" data-shortname=":welcomecat:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="2much2recover, post: 648021, member: 18366"] Welcome Estranged. I just wanted to add what a lot of people don't understand about domestic violence. For some reason people only believe that domestic violence happens between spouses/partners and never accept that the same types of domestic violence issues are coming from their own children. The types of behavior covered under DV include: physical, mental and emotional abuse, verbal abuse, sexual abuse, and finally financial abuse. Just because he (may) have suffered some kind of abuse in the past does not make it OK for him to abuse you. The domestic Violence Centers take all domestic abuse situations seriously and as was previously posted provides counseling and safety for those times when your son is being abusive. I also agree that with a violent MAN, even one that is your son, you have to provide for your own safety and security first! You have a RIGHT to a peaceful and stress free life. If I were you I wouldn't worry about your son not taking you up on the therapy. I offered the same for my daughter and all I paid for mostly was missed appointments. Also try not to offer to your son things that strain your budget - you are giving him mixed signals that you have the money but you are only willing to part with it if he does what you tell him to do with it. I say our (adult) children have no business knowing what our financial business is and the best thing we can do is to mirror their "I'm broke" back to them because if you don't they will always turn to you with another financial situation that only you can fix. Seems these kind of people aren't happy until they have picked the carcass! LOL :) :welcomecat: [/QUOTE]
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