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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 522774" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Malika, I'm really not talking about medication as not all people with ADHD/Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD)/whatever kids choose to medicate. My son is Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) and is unmedicated. However, help is there in school, in the community, and in life afterward. It is not scorned at nor seen as a bad thing nor is conformity considered especially positive in the US. We are strong individualists living within many cultures so we are definitely not all the same. And in many cases, we mingle well together and sometimes we don't, but we do not care if some children are "different." Teachers can be cold to differences, because it makes their job harder, and they can guess that the home life is terrible, but psychiatrists and psychologists have mostly been Freuded out. </p><p></p><p>Family life may or may not be a factor in a child's behavior. A lot of how a child acts is inherited. If you met your son's birthmother and birthfather, I'll bet you'd see your son in them, even down to some of his mannerisms. In our adoption group, parents who know their kids birthparents almost always comment that their children are more like them than like the homes they are being raised in. It's very interesting. </p><p></p><p>I think that is why traditional parenting techniques don't work for our differently wired children. However, for, say, a child who has severe ADD, as my daughter was diagnosed, she can be greatly helped in school by nontradional interventions (she is n Occupational Therapist (OT) on medications). She is allowed to take her tests in quiet places, such as the school library. She is allowed to have an extra study hall where there is a teacher who will sit with her and make sure she understands her work. She is allowed to take more time doing those tests and some homework than the other kids. She has about seven other kids in her class with various learning disabilities that have similar accommodations. Of late, she is not utilizing her accommodations much and is still doing well. So acknowledging a neurobiological difference does not automatically mean it has to be corrected by medication. There are other ways to deal with various disorders in many cases. Now in my own case, I have a serious mood disorder...nothing helped except medication. In fact it spiraled out of control. I wish there HAD been medications when I'd been a child. In essence, my childhood was a very sad experience for me and I think every child should at least be given a chance at a happy, carefree childhood. But my main problem was not ADHD (although I'm sure I had/have that too). Notice I don't list it in my signature since it's kind of an afterthought to me.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 522774, member: 1550"] Malika, I'm really not talking about medication as not all people with ADHD/Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD)/whatever kids choose to medicate. My son is Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) and is unmedicated. However, help is there in school, in the community, and in life afterward. It is not scorned at nor seen as a bad thing nor is conformity considered especially positive in the US. We are strong individualists living within many cultures so we are definitely not all the same. And in many cases, we mingle well together and sometimes we don't, but we do not care if some children are "different." Teachers can be cold to differences, because it makes their job harder, and they can guess that the home life is terrible, but psychiatrists and psychologists have mostly been Freuded out. Family life may or may not be a factor in a child's behavior. A lot of how a child acts is inherited. If you met your son's birthmother and birthfather, I'll bet you'd see your son in them, even down to some of his mannerisms. In our adoption group, parents who know their kids birthparents almost always comment that their children are more like them than like the homes they are being raised in. It's very interesting. I think that is why traditional parenting techniques don't work for our differently wired children. However, for, say, a child who has severe ADD, as my daughter was diagnosed, she can be greatly helped in school by nontradional interventions (she is n Occupational Therapist (OT) on medications). She is allowed to take her tests in quiet places, such as the school library. She is allowed to have an extra study hall where there is a teacher who will sit with her and make sure she understands her work. She is allowed to take more time doing those tests and some homework than the other kids. She has about seven other kids in her class with various learning disabilities that have similar accommodations. Of late, she is not utilizing her accommodations much and is still doing well. So acknowledging a neurobiological difference does not automatically mean it has to be corrected by medication. There are other ways to deal with various disorders in many cases. Now in my own case, I have a serious mood disorder...nothing helped except medication. In fact it spiraled out of control. I wish there HAD been medications when I'd been a child. In essence, my childhood was a very sad experience for me and I think every child should at least be given a chance at a happy, carefree childhood. But my main problem was not ADHD (although I'm sure I had/have that too). Notice I don't list it in my signature since it's kind of an afterthought to me. [/QUOTE]
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