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<blockquote data-quote="DesparatelyAfraid" data-source="post: 666681" data-attributes="member: 19509"><p>jude-in-nj, we realize we cannot 'win' a debate with our son, so we try not to engage in them. i have told him that he is free to have whatever political or philosophical beliefs he wants; that we are not insisting he change them. But he refuses to believe us and insists we are trying to change him. we have tried to make him understand that it is in his interests--regardless of his political/philosophical beliefs or future plans--to finish high school. School (his senior year) started this week, Tuesday. He has gone every day. He seemed really wiped out the first day, much happier (!) the second day, really down yesterday ("the novelty wore off sooner than expected"), but still went to school today. His oldest brother has invited him to spend the weekend with in Boston. As first, son seemed quite willing (not excited, nothing is exciting...) to do so. Ad of last night, he 'guessed' he would do it. We bought the ticket. I will drive him to the airport. Brother will meet him at airport. fingers crossed he doesn't take the opportunity to run. we keep telling ourselves that he could run away at any moment, that he drives the car off to school each day, so how is this any different? </p><p>It will give us a chance to have a weekend without the constant vigilance and altering of plans based on his mood.</p><p></p><p>I feel very alone in this. While my husband is in it, too, he is much more able to detach. He is convinced that if our son runs away, he'll be back in 3 days. but that assumes there is no underlying issue that is causing it all. Son is not a petulant 13 year old who is mad because we said he couldn't do something. He has adopted a world view that cannot be lived in the current social/political/economic world.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DesparatelyAfraid, post: 666681, member: 19509"] jude-in-nj, we realize we cannot 'win' a debate with our son, so we try not to engage in them. i have told him that he is free to have whatever political or philosophical beliefs he wants; that we are not insisting he change them. But he refuses to believe us and insists we are trying to change him. we have tried to make him understand that it is in his interests--regardless of his political/philosophical beliefs or future plans--to finish high school. School (his senior year) started this week, Tuesday. He has gone every day. He seemed really wiped out the first day, much happier (!) the second day, really down yesterday ("the novelty wore off sooner than expected"), but still went to school today. His oldest brother has invited him to spend the weekend with in Boston. As first, son seemed quite willing (not excited, nothing is exciting...) to do so. Ad of last night, he 'guessed' he would do it. We bought the ticket. I will drive him to the airport. Brother will meet him at airport. fingers crossed he doesn't take the opportunity to run. we keep telling ourselves that he could run away at any moment, that he drives the car off to school each day, so how is this any different? It will give us a chance to have a weekend without the constant vigilance and altering of plans based on his mood. I feel very alone in this. While my husband is in it, too, he is much more able to detach. He is convinced that if our son runs away, he'll be back in 3 days. but that assumes there is no underlying issue that is causing it all. Son is not a petulant 13 year old who is mad because we said he couldn't do something. He has adopted a world view that cannot be lived in the current social/political/economic world. [/QUOTE]
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