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(New Member) This child is going to ruin our family.
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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 266648" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Walk away is good. You're depriving her of an audience and also removing yourself from the strong temptation to slap her.</p><p></p><p>It'salso a strategy we try yo teach our difficult children, to walk away instead of raging. </p><p></p><p>A really important thing you can do (it's something I learned from Explosive Child) is to model the behaviour towards her, that you want her to show to you. Of course she isn't going to begin by being polite to you, YOU have to be the hero, as Dr Phil would say. You have to start first even if you think she doesn't deserve it. The biggest thing I've found - respect. If you show respect to her, then she has NO excuse to not show respect to you. But don't rub her nose in it. It takes time, but eventually you will be able to quietly say, "I'm not shouting at you; why are you shouting at me?"</p><p></p><p>Also, these are really good strategies for you to practice now, to help you learn to get on in the big bad world of the adult workplace. because there are difficult children there too, and you're currently getting a crash course. When you meet them in the workplace, it's definitely not your job to fix them Occupational Therapist (OT) make them behave. You really do need to practice the 'walk away" approach then!</p><p></p><p>I hopw you're getting some much-needed rest. Do something good for yourself. A manicure, perhaps. Enjoy.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 266648, member: 1991"] Walk away is good. You're depriving her of an audience and also removing yourself from the strong temptation to slap her. It'salso a strategy we try yo teach our difficult children, to walk away instead of raging. A really important thing you can do (it's something I learned from Explosive Child) is to model the behaviour towards her, that you want her to show to you. Of course she isn't going to begin by being polite to you, YOU have to be the hero, as Dr Phil would say. You have to start first even if you think she doesn't deserve it. The biggest thing I've found - respect. If you show respect to her, then she has NO excuse to not show respect to you. But don't rub her nose in it. It takes time, but eventually you will be able to quietly say, "I'm not shouting at you; why are you shouting at me?" Also, these are really good strategies for you to practice now, to help you learn to get on in the big bad world of the adult workplace. because there are difficult children there too, and you're currently getting a crash course. When you meet them in the workplace, it's definitely not your job to fix them Occupational Therapist (OT) make them behave. You really do need to practice the 'walk away" approach then! I hopw you're getting some much-needed rest. Do something good for yourself. A manicure, perhaps. Enjoy. Marg [/QUOTE]
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