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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 335114" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>Good for you to hold back on the yelling. It is hard to let that one go when it becomes a habit.</p><p> </p><p>As others said, no punishing for things she can not help. Try to think of it as a learning situation instead of a punishable one.</p><p> </p><p>I hope your daughter has a very kind patient teacher. One who can calmly redirect her back to the subject at hand and kindly remind her to use her "inside" voice. </p><p> </p><p>The daily report will be good. When my difficult child was having behavioral issues at school, his teacher came up with a short list of things that he needed to be aware of (he was 11 years old so this may not be age appropriate for your daughter). Things like, Respecting others, Doing his best, ect. At the end of the day, she would go over the list with him and ask him how he would grade himself. Together, they would have the report for me. I always praised him for his successful days and encouraged him to try again on his less than successful days. I would never get angry with him. We focused on the positive and encouraged for the next time.</p><p> </p><p>Maybe on the report, you can have one or two items that your daughter can focus on such as using a softer voice inside. If she has a day of struggle, no punishing, just, "I see today you had a little difficulty. Should we practice our voices at home tonight?" Make a game of it. Practice voices so soft you can hardly hear to voices that are just a tad too loud for indoors. If you practice outdoor voices, go outdoors. Have her stand at the door and you go into the yard a short distance but far enough for her to raise her voice to tell you something. Give her situations where she can "hear" how different levels of voices are used. Pretend you are in a library and you have to whisper for awhile. Take note at how far apart you are while you talk in the car. Tell her you are not loud in the car because it would be hard for her to understand what you are saying. But if you find just the right volume, sounds are easier to hear.</p><p> </p><p>Can you get her into a dance class? So that she knows that there is a time and place for dancing. It is not wrong to dance, just have to do it at the right time.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 335114, member: 5096"] Good for you to hold back on the yelling. It is hard to let that one go when it becomes a habit. As others said, no punishing for things she can not help. Try to think of it as a learning situation instead of a punishable one. I hope your daughter has a very kind patient teacher. One who can calmly redirect her back to the subject at hand and kindly remind her to use her "inside" voice. The daily report will be good. When my difficult child was having behavioral issues at school, his teacher came up with a short list of things that he needed to be aware of (he was 11 years old so this may not be age appropriate for your daughter). Things like, Respecting others, Doing his best, ect. At the end of the day, she would go over the list with him and ask him how he would grade himself. Together, they would have the report for me. I always praised him for his successful days and encouraged him to try again on his less than successful days. I would never get angry with him. We focused on the positive and encouraged for the next time. Maybe on the report, you can have one or two items that your daughter can focus on such as using a softer voice inside. If she has a day of struggle, no punishing, just, "I see today you had a little difficulty. Should we practice our voices at home tonight?" Make a game of it. Practice voices so soft you can hardly hear to voices that are just a tad too loud for indoors. If you practice outdoor voices, go outdoors. Have her stand at the door and you go into the yard a short distance but far enough for her to raise her voice to tell you something. Give her situations where she can "hear" how different levels of voices are used. Pretend you are in a library and you have to whisper for awhile. Take note at how far apart you are while you talk in the car. Tell her you are not loud in the car because it would be hard for her to understand what you are saying. But if you find just the right volume, sounds are easier to hear. Can you get her into a dance class? So that she knows that there is a time and place for dancing. It is not wrong to dance, just have to do it at the right time. [/QUOTE]
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