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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 46131" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Aw sweetie, I understand your worry. I've went thru pregnancy with 2 difficult child girls. :faint:</p><p></p><p> Detachment 101 is NOT easy. Not til you get the hang of it.</p><p></p><p>You've bailed difficult child out of 2 really big messes already. Your gut is probably telling you she's headed for mess #3 in addition to maybe being pregnant.</p><p></p><p>If you keep bailing difficult child out, she learns nothing except that you'll come to her rescue each and every time. Good for her, lousy for you. difficult child needs a good dose of natural concequences.</p><p></p><p>I understand you're worried for the potential baby. Believe me, been there done that. Not fun. But this is difficult child's child, her responsibility. She's 20, not 16. There is plenty of help out there for her if she wants to make use of it.</p><p></p><p>And you could be getting yourself all worked up over nothing. Could be the test was neg and is why she didn't bother mentioning it.</p><p></p><p>Take deep breaths. One step at a time. No sense in worrying over a baby til you know there is a baby to worry about.</p><p></p><p>Honestly, difficult child's passive aggressive deal can give you time to think and get a plan together for when you do talk/see her again. While making the plan try not to just think of the near future. </p><p></p><p>What are the things you're wanting to help difficult child with? In the long run is it really going to Help her or just make it easier for her to continue with her current irresponsible behavior? Just how much help are you honestly willing to give/able to give/would difficult child accept? Will it truely be beneficial to difficult child, or just make you feel better?</p><p></p><p>When I get the urge to "help" my kids (now all adults) I stop and ask myself these types of questions. I don't want to still be picking up after them when they're 40. I remind myself that the biggest part of my job is to make sure they become productive and functioning members of society. (or as close to it as is possible) Usually after I've thought it thru, I don't do much of what my gut reaction would've been.</p><p></p><p>Hugs</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 46131, member: 84"] Aw sweetie, I understand your worry. I've went thru pregnancy with 2 difficult child girls. [img]:faint:[/img] Detachment 101 is NOT easy. Not til you get the hang of it. You've bailed difficult child out of 2 really big messes already. Your gut is probably telling you she's headed for mess #3 in addition to maybe being pregnant. If you keep bailing difficult child out, she learns nothing except that you'll come to her rescue each and every time. Good for her, lousy for you. difficult child needs a good dose of natural concequences. I understand you're worried for the potential baby. Believe me, been there done that. Not fun. But this is difficult child's child, her responsibility. She's 20, not 16. There is plenty of help out there for her if she wants to make use of it. And you could be getting yourself all worked up over nothing. Could be the test was neg and is why she didn't bother mentioning it. Take deep breaths. One step at a time. No sense in worrying over a baby til you know there is a baby to worry about. Honestly, difficult child's passive aggressive deal can give you time to think and get a plan together for when you do talk/see her again. While making the plan try not to just think of the near future. What are the things you're wanting to help difficult child with? In the long run is it really going to Help her or just make it easier for her to continue with her current irresponsible behavior? Just how much help are you honestly willing to give/able to give/would difficult child accept? Will it truely be beneficial to difficult child, or just make you feel better? When I get the urge to "help" my kids (now all adults) I stop and ask myself these types of questions. I don't want to still be picking up after them when they're 40. I remind myself that the biggest part of my job is to make sure they become productive and functioning members of society. (or as close to it as is possible) Usually after I've thought it thru, I don't do much of what my gut reaction would've been. Hugs [/QUOTE]
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