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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 369019" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Welcome, Batman's Mom.</p><p></p><p>I agree with the others about the ODD label - I hate the label, I feel it can be so misleading, because it implies the child has control, the child is choosing to be a thorn in your side purely for his/her own amusement. And so often the problems are because the child WANTS control because he/she feels the world around is just too confusing. </p><p></p><p>Some suggestions for you, quickly (because for me right now, time is a problem):</p><p></p><p>1) Read "The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene. Get a copy from the library. While you wait for your trip to the library, go to Early Childhood forum and look for the sticky on how to adapt this book to younger children. This book changes your mindset away from the "I must not let my child win" to "How can I work with my child to help him learn how to behave more appropriately?"</p><p></p><p>2) Avoid battles. It is better to head off a battle before it begins, than to allow one to escalate. Once this becomes a battle, you have already lost. So has he.</p><p></p><p>3) Get referrals, use them, get him assessed but always keep an open mind re diagnosis. He is still young, the sooner you get started on a positive path, the better for all of you. But it still may not be the best path; you may need to course-correct later on.</p><p></p><p>Welcome to the site, there is help here.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 369019, member: 1991"] Welcome, Batman's Mom. I agree with the others about the ODD label - I hate the label, I feel it can be so misleading, because it implies the child has control, the child is choosing to be a thorn in your side purely for his/her own amusement. And so often the problems are because the child WANTS control because he/she feels the world around is just too confusing. Some suggestions for you, quickly (because for me right now, time is a problem): 1) Read "The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene. Get a copy from the library. While you wait for your trip to the library, go to Early Childhood forum and look for the sticky on how to adapt this book to younger children. This book changes your mindset away from the "I must not let my child win" to "How can I work with my child to help him learn how to behave more appropriately?" 2) Avoid battles. It is better to head off a battle before it begins, than to allow one to escalate. Once this becomes a battle, you have already lost. So has he. 3) Get referrals, use them, get him assessed but always keep an open mind re diagnosis. He is still young, the sooner you get started on a positive path, the better for all of you. But it still may not be the best path; you may need to course-correct later on. Welcome to the site, there is help here. Marg [/QUOTE]
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