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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 369078" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>It's an ideal to aim for, especially if the kid becomes focussed on material things. But hey, we do what works for us. If this worked for you, that is great. as you said, there are many levels on which these things work. And if it helped you too, by relieving your feelings of helplessness and frustration, it was a good system.</p><p></p><p>ANyway, I can't preach too much. I use mini-chocolate bars as an immediate incentive for difficult child 3 - if he works solidly for a continuous half hour on his schoolwork, he gets a small chocolate. And I can't dive in and get it back from him, if he then slacks off!</p><p>But my reasoning with the chocolate is - it has a strong flavour and smell, and smell is one of the most basic of the senses, it really helps if I can immediately connect the taste of something distinctive and pleasurable, with something really good that he has done.</p><p></p><p>ANother really important thing about any reward system - it needs to be readily achievable and needs to be graded, so you can always have goals he can realistically work towards.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 369078, member: 1991"] It's an ideal to aim for, especially if the kid becomes focussed on material things. But hey, we do what works for us. If this worked for you, that is great. as you said, there are many levels on which these things work. And if it helped you too, by relieving your feelings of helplessness and frustration, it was a good system. ANyway, I can't preach too much. I use mini-chocolate bars as an immediate incentive for difficult child 3 - if he works solidly for a continuous half hour on his schoolwork, he gets a small chocolate. And I can't dive in and get it back from him, if he then slacks off! But my reasoning with the chocolate is - it has a strong flavour and smell, and smell is one of the most basic of the senses, it really helps if I can immediately connect the taste of something distinctive and pleasurable, with something really good that he has done. ANother really important thing about any reward system - it needs to be readily achievable and needs to be graded, so you can always have goals he can realistically work towards. Marg [/QUOTE]
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