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<blockquote data-quote="Sunlight" data-source="post: 21873" data-attributes="member: 97"><p>I have to say I am in tears here reading your story. every word. </p><p></p><p>my son is an addict and has been so since age 13. he is 23. he has fathered a son who is three. I would like to get custody of that child. his mom sleeps all day and he is left to fend for himself. my son has him two weeks on two weeks off. my son lives here. my concern is that my grandson has no true home. he is a drifter from home to home. I cannot change that for now.</p><p></p><p>I allow my son to live here because he was released from prison almost 6 months ago. no place to go. he had been in jail for over two yrs for DUIs. since age 18 he had been in and out of jail or on the run...once taking his two month old son and disappearing for two months.</p><p></p><p>once they show us they are capable of this lifestyle, we can never truly trust that they will never do it again. we must protect ourselves with boundaries. we can only take so much.</p><p></p><p>so, we tell them they can live as they chose.. but we cannot go down that path with them. we also cannot let our grandchildren suffer and live with that. </p><p></p><p>I hope my son never has another child. he is a good dad to his son, but you never know for sure when things could relapse. </p><p></p><p>my thoughts if she were my daughter...I would make sure she is sterilized so no more kids are born. I would offer her a temp place to live til she goes to the rehab. she must go from the rehab to other housing. to protect her daughter from watching and hoping that mom will be all ok. her daughter doesnt need to cycle with mom. </p><p></p><p>if my son relapses he knows he is not coming back here. no matter how much he cries. his son will be protected from that misery.</p><p>Good luck and God bless. I hope that I am not still watching my son go up and down with his addiction when he is 26.</p><p>these 10 yrs have been much more than I ever wanted to go thru. </p><p></p><p>You and your wife are survivors.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Sunlight, post: 21873, member: 97"] I have to say I am in tears here reading your story. every word. my son is an addict and has been so since age 13. he is 23. he has fathered a son who is three. I would like to get custody of that child. his mom sleeps all day and he is left to fend for himself. my son has him two weeks on two weeks off. my son lives here. my concern is that my grandson has no true home. he is a drifter from home to home. I cannot change that for now. I allow my son to live here because he was released from prison almost 6 months ago. no place to go. he had been in jail for over two yrs for DUIs. since age 18 he had been in and out of jail or on the run...once taking his two month old son and disappearing for two months. once they show us they are capable of this lifestyle, we can never truly trust that they will never do it again. we must protect ourselves with boundaries. we can only take so much. so, we tell them they can live as they chose.. but we cannot go down that path with them. we also cannot let our grandchildren suffer and live with that. I hope my son never has another child. he is a good dad to his son, but you never know for sure when things could relapse. my thoughts if she were my daughter...I would make sure she is sterilized so no more kids are born. I would offer her a temp place to live til she goes to the rehab. she must go from the rehab to other housing. to protect her daughter from watching and hoping that mom will be all ok. her daughter doesnt need to cycle with mom. if my son relapses he knows he is not coming back here. no matter how much he cries. his son will be protected from that misery. Good luck and God bless. I hope that I am not still watching my son go up and down with his addiction when he is 26. these 10 yrs have been much more than I ever wanted to go thru. You and your wife are survivors. [/QUOTE]
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