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<blockquote data-quote="No More Rabbits!" data-source="post: 101702" data-attributes="member: 4369"><p>OK I've added a sig, not much new info there though.</p><p></p><p>GFG15 had a few friends in primary school. Since going to Secondary school (at 11 here in UK)no 'friends' as such - he talks about talking to people (I suspect more at) but he doesn't have invites or hang with them in a group. He once bought a girl home and we all just about fainted (LOL) but she thought his pet rats, and the state of his room were dsigusting, and he went off girls after that.</p><p></p><p>In his free time he is on easy child...either gaming (he likes modding games) or on Modding forums. He sometimes watches TV, or reads, but most content is around the stuff he is interested in, History, Military strategy that sort of thing. He interacts with daughter's friends, and her boyfriend when they are here, and appears to have good relationships with them, but they don't net chat or talk on the phone, he must be the only teenager who has no interest in using his mobile. I think he just likes to keep work and school in seperate compartments.</p><p></p><p>As a baby he wouldn't walk. He used to scream if I tried to make him, and eventually he was diagnosed with Hypermobile joints. He wore inserts in his shoes for some years to help with mobility.</p><p>I considered his behaviour to be odd all along, I have always suspected an Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) as I have had contact with other kids with it - DS seemed pretty similar. He had texture issues, and there are still certain foods that he is practically phobic about. He doesn't like noise. Since he was able to talk, he follows you around telling you all about XXXX (insert 'bee in the bonnet' of the moment), till your head is about ready to explode, and doesn't take kindly to being asked to stop. (Which is why I thought he might have aspergers) He thinks most other people are idiots..... He doesn't have a confident that I know of. Earlier this year following the flare up here, he and I did have a chat and a hug, because he just felt "<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/2012/censored2.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":censored2:" title="censored2 :censored2:" data-shortname=":censored2:" />" but he couldn't voice why, and that occured following an incident with the school where Dyspraxia was mentioned again. He is very very sensitive around this issue.</p><p></p><p>How I handle innaproprate talk varies on what it is. If he is just generally swearing (not at anyone) I generally let it go (pick your battles) If he lets off a torrent of unpleasant abuse (and believe me there is a huge difference) I point out that it is unacceptable. I either leave the room, or he is asked to leave the room. I am nearly always alway 'bad cop' in a disciplinary situation, and frankly I have got to the point where I let a lot go for the sake on my own sanity. There isn't stuff I can take away as punishment, he says he 'might as well be dead' if you take his easy child away. As it's also just about his only link to communicate with anyone, I'm not sure it's constructive.</p><p></p><p>Pulling him out of school was never an option. He WILL NOT work for me in that way. Homeschooling is not much supported in the UK. One of us would have had to go :wink:</p><p></p><p>IU hear you on "<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/2012/censored2.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":censored2:" title="censored2 :censored2:" data-shortname=":censored2:" /> the joy out of the air" I couldn't have put it better. DS did have two pet rats, both of whom died recently of old age. I think it did him a lot of good to have 'rat love' but unfortuantely it had got to the point where him looking after them properly was the subject of a nightly battle and as much as I think it help him, I'm just not ready to go there again. We also have two dogs that he is very attached to. They are rescues as the dog he grew up with also died last year (I swear we are not the kiss of death family for animals LOL!)</p><p></p><p>The thing that worries me most is the way he reacts to any suggestion that there is a 'problem' even the hypermobility was a nightmare. He hated the hospital appointments so much he always in a bad mood for days afterwards. He could have extra time in exams and I'd been working towards him getting a laptop to use in exams, but he WILL NOT agree to anything that migh help him, and his school have been useless. He does not present as a problem in class (not till now HA!)so they just brushed me under the carpet. Pretty much the only way you can get a diagnosis here is with a school referral, I don't think I'd dare suggest he saw somebody privately anyway. I've been accused of being 'poor genetic material', he has threatened to cut his hand and his feet off! And when you explain that you find this behaviour distressing, upsetting or worrying....he gets even more angry because you think he is a 'retard'!</p><p></p><p>I am at my wits end....I can't WAIT for him to finish school. He has two more years to go to do his A levels. Those are the subjects he will choose for himself so I am hoping that will bring an improvment. Otherwise...The school are stupid. The Government are Stupid...and the guy who made Physical Education compusory should be forced to watch his family being tortured....apparently. I pointed out that he was probably already long dead, and was told he should be cloned from his bone DNA and his CLONES should be tortured....Sigh somedays it's funny. Somedays it's not. I'm sure you all know how it goes. He's a bright, intelligent boy, he actually has good points (I'm sure he does...) and I love him but sometimes I just want it all to go away!</p><p></p><p>Think that's all the questions.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="No More Rabbits!, post: 101702, member: 4369"] OK I've added a sig, not much new info there though. GFG15 had a few friends in primary school. Since going to Secondary school (at 11 here in UK)no 'friends' as such - he talks about talking to people (I suspect more at) but he doesn't have invites or hang with them in a group. He once bought a girl home and we all just about fainted (LOL) but she thought his pet rats, and the state of his room were dsigusting, and he went off girls after that. In his free time he is on easy child...either gaming (he likes modding games) or on Modding forums. He sometimes watches TV, or reads, but most content is around the stuff he is interested in, History, Military strategy that sort of thing. He interacts with daughter's friends, and her boyfriend when they are here, and appears to have good relationships with them, but they don't net chat or talk on the phone, he must be the only teenager who has no interest in using his mobile. I think he just likes to keep work and school in seperate compartments. As a baby he wouldn't walk. He used to scream if I tried to make him, and eventually he was diagnosed with Hypermobile joints. He wore inserts in his shoes for some years to help with mobility. I considered his behaviour to be odd all along, I have always suspected an Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) as I have had contact with other kids with it - DS seemed pretty similar. He had texture issues, and there are still certain foods that he is practically phobic about. He doesn't like noise. Since he was able to talk, he follows you around telling you all about XXXX (insert 'bee in the bonnet' of the moment), till your head is about ready to explode, and doesn't take kindly to being asked to stop. (Which is why I thought he might have aspergers) He thinks most other people are idiots..... He doesn't have a confident that I know of. Earlier this year following the flare up here, he and I did have a chat and a hug, because he just felt ":censored:" but he couldn't voice why, and that occured following an incident with the school where Dyspraxia was mentioned again. He is very very sensitive around this issue. How I handle innaproprate talk varies on what it is. If he is just generally swearing (not at anyone) I generally let it go (pick your battles) If he lets off a torrent of unpleasant abuse (and believe me there is a huge difference) I point out that it is unacceptable. I either leave the room, or he is asked to leave the room. I am nearly always alway 'bad cop' in a disciplinary situation, and frankly I have got to the point where I let a lot go for the sake on my own sanity. There isn't stuff I can take away as punishment, he says he 'might as well be dead' if you take his easy child away. As it's also just about his only link to communicate with anyone, I'm not sure it's constructive. Pulling him out of school was never an option. He WILL NOT work for me in that way. Homeschooling is not much supported in the UK. One of us would have had to go [img]:wink:[/img] IU hear you on ":censored: the joy out of the air" I couldn't have put it better. DS did have two pet rats, both of whom died recently of old age. I think it did him a lot of good to have 'rat love' but unfortuantely it had got to the point where him looking after them properly was the subject of a nightly battle and as much as I think it help him, I'm just not ready to go there again. We also have two dogs that he is very attached to. They are rescues as the dog he grew up with also died last year (I swear we are not the kiss of death family for animals LOL!) The thing that worries me most is the way he reacts to any suggestion that there is a 'problem' even the hypermobility was a nightmare. He hated the hospital appointments so much he always in a bad mood for days afterwards. He could have extra time in exams and I'd been working towards him getting a laptop to use in exams, but he WILL NOT agree to anything that migh help him, and his school have been useless. He does not present as a problem in class (not till now HA!)so they just brushed me under the carpet. Pretty much the only way you can get a diagnosis here is with a school referral, I don't think I'd dare suggest he saw somebody privately anyway. I've been accused of being 'poor genetic material', he has threatened to cut his hand and his feet off! And when you explain that you find this behaviour distressing, upsetting or worrying....he gets even more angry because you think he is a 'retard'! I am at my wits end....I can't WAIT for him to finish school. He has two more years to go to do his A levels. Those are the subjects he will choose for himself so I am hoping that will bring an improvment. Otherwise...The school are stupid. The Government are Stupid...and the guy who made Physical Education compusory should be forced to watch his family being tortured....apparently. I pointed out that he was probably already long dead, and was told he should be cloned from his bone DNA and his CLONES should be tortured....Sigh somedays it's funny. Somedays it's not. I'm sure you all know how it goes. He's a bright, intelligent boy, he actually has good points (I'm sure he does...) and I love him but sometimes I just want it all to go away! Think that's all the questions. [/QUOTE]
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