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New- sorry to start off like this! Should there be conseq. for destructive sleep/beh
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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 168320" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>I don't know that I would blame her at this point. You know the old adage, "fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me". Whatever happened, she either did it while asleep, or she is never going to change her story. Do the girls share the room? If so, it seems fortuitous for her to have destroyed something in the hallway where her sister couldn't give witness to what happened.</p><p></p><p>Since this the first time, I would be very careful to not give her a reason to try to prove to you that this is a sleep incident because you don't believe her - even if you don't.</p><p></p><p>I would approach her with concern that this must be very upsetting to her that she doesn't know what happened, and of course everyone wants to help her to have a restful night's sleep and to avoid messes and confusion in the morning. Therefore you are going to install a cheap alarm on the exterior of her bedroom door that will go off if she opens her bedroom door in the night so that should she have a sleepwalking incident you or her step-dad will be there to make sure that she is safe and doesn't accidentally walk out the front door and get hit by a car. You and husband will check the alarm nightly before you go to bed to be sure that it is properly attached.</p><p></p><p>If she's lying and she did this to get some attention, she'll have gotten the attention, there will be no need to do it again, and she </p><p>won't need to escalate her behavior to get your sympathy. At the same time, you have put the brakes on the behavior without making a fight out of it. It's done and over with, and she doesn't have to prove she was right.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 168320, member: 99"] I don't know that I would blame her at this point. You know the old adage, "fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me". Whatever happened, she either did it while asleep, or she is never going to change her story. Do the girls share the room? If so, it seems fortuitous for her to have destroyed something in the hallway where her sister couldn't give witness to what happened. Since this the first time, I would be very careful to not give her a reason to try to prove to you that this is a sleep incident because you don't believe her - even if you don't. I would approach her with concern that this must be very upsetting to her that she doesn't know what happened, and of course everyone wants to help her to have a restful night's sleep and to avoid messes and confusion in the morning. Therefore you are going to install a cheap alarm on the exterior of her bedroom door that will go off if she opens her bedroom door in the night so that should she have a sleepwalking incident you or her step-dad will be there to make sure that she is safe and doesn't accidentally walk out the front door and get hit by a car. You and husband will check the alarm nightly before you go to bed to be sure that it is properly attached. If she's lying and she did this to get some attention, she'll have gotten the attention, there will be no need to do it again, and she won't need to escalate her behavior to get your sympathy. At the same time, you have put the brakes on the behavior without making a fight out of it. It's done and over with, and she doesn't have to prove she was right. [/QUOTE]
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