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<blockquote data-quote="TiredSoul" data-source="post: 482498" data-attributes="member: 3930"><p>This could be the case - because he would cry for hours during these night terrors and we wouldn't really be able to comfort him. So how do you repair attachment if that is a problem? What would be a normal response from a parent when their child is crying and upset saying they hate themselves and hate their life and want to start over and/or die? I move in, get closer, try to comfort, tell him I love him, ask what I can do to help him feel better. Nothing I say helps him feel better.</p><p></p><p>When he told the school he was going to kill himself - the school counselor was asking him questions. When asked how his parents would feel if he did that - he said my Dad wouldn't even notice and my Mom would celebrate. I was devastated to hear that. I talked to him later and asked if he really believe that I would celebrate and he said no, but it makes me wonder. I spend so much time on him and have always given him so much attention and praise and all the things I thought I was supposed to say to help build his self confidence - seems like nothing I do makes any difference. I need something to do. I need an action plan. I need to fix this and make everything better. I have a hard time with this being out of my control. Gee wonder where difficult child gets his control issues from? (sigh)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TiredSoul, post: 482498, member: 3930"] This could be the case - because he would cry for hours during these night terrors and we wouldn't really be able to comfort him. So how do you repair attachment if that is a problem? What would be a normal response from a parent when their child is crying and upset saying they hate themselves and hate their life and want to start over and/or die? I move in, get closer, try to comfort, tell him I love him, ask what I can do to help him feel better. Nothing I say helps him feel better. When he told the school he was going to kill himself - the school counselor was asking him questions. When asked how his parents would feel if he did that - he said my Dad wouldn't even notice and my Mom would celebrate. I was devastated to hear that. I talked to him later and asked if he really believe that I would celebrate and he said no, but it makes me wonder. I spend so much time on him and have always given him so much attention and praise and all the things I thought I was supposed to say to help build his self confidence - seems like nothing I do makes any difference. I need something to do. I need an action plan. I need to fix this and make everything better. I have a hard time with this being out of my control. Gee wonder where difficult child gets his control issues from? (sigh) [/QUOTE]
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