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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 680006" data-attributes="member: 15801"><p>Hi Roxana....My heart goes out to you too. Ok so yes take away the car and don't give him money. The car because if he is driving while on drugs he could kill someone.... And you know that any money you give him will go to drugs.</p><p></p><p>After that I think the first thing is to get support for yourself. This group is great of course.... But if you can find a good support group for parents, such as alanon that can be very helpful.</p><p></p><p>I think then the important thing to know is you can't control this. You didn't cause it and you can't cure it. So kicking hm out is not going magically make him get better. So what is it like having him live with you? Is it tolerable or is his behavior intolerable? To me that is what you look at? Look at his behavior while living with you and how it affects you. If he is stealing from you or making you feel unsafe in your house, or putting you at legal risk then there is your answer. If living with him is tolerable and kicking him out is going to add a lot of stress and angst to your life then that might be your answer.</p><p></p><p>There is no right or wrong here. The thing to look at is what makes you feel most comfortable and most at peace? </p><p></p><p>Just so you know I have had my son live on the street and it was very very hard on me.... It was the right thing at the time but I sure hope to avoid it again and I might not be able to because in the end it is not up to me.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 680006, member: 15801"] Hi Roxana....My heart goes out to you too. Ok so yes take away the car and don't give him money. The car because if he is driving while on drugs he could kill someone.... And you know that any money you give him will go to drugs. After that I think the first thing is to get support for yourself. This group is great of course.... But if you can find a good support group for parents, such as alanon that can be very helpful. I think then the important thing to know is you can't control this. You didn't cause it and you can't cure it. So kicking hm out is not going magically make him get better. So what is it like having him live with you? Is it tolerable or is his behavior intolerable? To me that is what you look at? Look at his behavior while living with you and how it affects you. If he is stealing from you or making you feel unsafe in your house, or putting you at legal risk then there is your answer. If living with him is tolerable and kicking him out is going to add a lot of stress and angst to your life then that might be your answer. There is no right or wrong here. The thing to look at is what makes you feel most comfortable and most at peace? Just so you know I have had my son live on the street and it was very very hard on me.... It was the right thing at the time but I sure hope to avoid it again and I might not be able to because in the end it is not up to me. [/QUOTE]
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