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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 333150" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>How about trying to point out the obvious in even the things we take for granted.</p><p></p><p>Some examples:</p><p> </p><p>When you give him a hat to wear, say, "There, now your head will be warm."</p><p> </p><p>When he brushes his teeth, say, "Now your teeth feel clean."</p><p> </p><p>When he picks up a toy, say, "Now the floor looks nice."</p><p> </p><p>After awhile, he may catch on that when he does something, something else will happen even if it is very natural.</p><p> </p><p>Play board games - make a point at the beginning to make an "adventure" out of who may end up with the loosing end. For example, when playing Candy Land, say, "Who do you think will get the piece that sends us back to the beginning? What should we do when we get it?" Have something fun planned like the person who draws the card gets to have an extra book read at bed time. That way if he finds himself loosing, it is still a positive experience - when things don't go well, we change our plans - we learn from what happens.</p><p> </p><p>If he is interested, find ways that he can help in meal preparation. That teaches time management and has lots of cause and effects opportunities. If the toast burns, we don't get upset, we just start over and lower the setting of the toaster - no big deal. If he can see how you manage these setbacks, he will learn that getting upset isn't necessary. So, when something doesn't go your way, go ahead and let him know what happened and how you handled it. "difficult child, on my way home from work today, a train went through blocking traffic. I was a little upset because I needed to get you on time. So, I found a way around that train - I was able to turn around and go to the street that goes under the train. No train is going to keep me from getting you." Hope that makes sense?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 333150, member: 5096"] How about trying to point out the obvious in even the things we take for granted. Some examples: When you give him a hat to wear, say, "There, now your head will be warm." When he brushes his teeth, say, "Now your teeth feel clean." When he picks up a toy, say, "Now the floor looks nice." After awhile, he may catch on that when he does something, something else will happen even if it is very natural. Play board games - make a point at the beginning to make an "adventure" out of who may end up with the loosing end. For example, when playing Candy Land, say, "Who do you think will get the piece that sends us back to the beginning? What should we do when we get it?" Have something fun planned like the person who draws the card gets to have an extra book read at bed time. That way if he finds himself loosing, it is still a positive experience - when things don't go well, we change our plans - we learn from what happens. If he is interested, find ways that he can help in meal preparation. That teaches time management and has lots of cause and effects opportunities. If the toast burns, we don't get upset, we just start over and lower the setting of the toaster - no big deal. If he can see how you manage these setbacks, he will learn that getting upset isn't necessary. So, when something doesn't go your way, go ahead and let him know what happened and how you handled it. "difficult child, on my way home from work today, a train went through blocking traffic. I was a little upset because I needed to get you on time. So, I found a way around that train - I was able to turn around and go to the street that goes under the train. No train is going to keep me from getting you." Hope that makes sense? [/QUOTE]
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