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<blockquote data-quote="Dixies_fire" data-source="post: 592993" data-attributes="member: 16184"><p>I don't have an adult child, and I am sorry that you have been going trough this. But I was cut loose at the age of 16 to largely succeed or fail in life by my own volition. It taught me some things, paying bills, earning gas money only shopping when I had money. Bad people steal and I worked butt off for what I had. This girl is totally taking advantage of you. You tried college and you tried nursing her through every failure. If she doesn't have the qualifications to work in your husbands office she shouldn't work there.</p><p></p><p>I can understand not wanting to press charges on her but taking her phone is a teenaged punishment this girl is an adult. At 21 I had been on my own for 5 years, had held jobs for multiple years. Earned a GED, accepted to college (couldn't pay for it) been married and cared for my daughter for two years. Not to say the way I did things the best way but guess what? I'm 27, middle class have a nice car, nice home and nice kids.</p><p></p><p>Her taking your credit card is a hallmark of entitled behavior. She seems contrite because she's sad as hell she got caught and you might make her work for a living. </p><p></p><p>Set a date. Say by the end of summer you need to be out, by xyz date (somewhere in the middle) she needs a car. If she doesn't have a car by the date you set she still needs to be out by the end of the summer. I would not give her phone back but that's up to you.</p><p></p><p>She's a grown up. </p><p>She isn't getting better. </p><p>She's getting worse </p><p>And god forbid she does ever have kids she wouldn't know how to take care of them because she can't take care of herself.</p><p></p><p>There's a gray area between pressing charges and letting her continue to walk all over you. You and your husband are the only ones who will make this happen. She obviously isn't going to do it. Find your gray area that you are comfy with and get the stress out of your life and enjoy YOUR freedom.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Dixies_fire, post: 592993, member: 16184"] I don't have an adult child, and I am sorry that you have been going trough this. But I was cut loose at the age of 16 to largely succeed or fail in life by my own volition. It taught me some things, paying bills, earning gas money only shopping when I had money. Bad people steal and I worked butt off for what I had. This girl is totally taking advantage of you. You tried college and you tried nursing her through every failure. If she doesn't have the qualifications to work in your husbands office she shouldn't work there. I can understand not wanting to press charges on her but taking her phone is a teenaged punishment this girl is an adult. At 21 I had been on my own for 5 years, had held jobs for multiple years. Earned a GED, accepted to college (couldn't pay for it) been married and cared for my daughter for two years. Not to say the way I did things the best way but guess what? I'm 27, middle class have a nice car, nice home and nice kids. Her taking your credit card is a hallmark of entitled behavior. She seems contrite because she's sad as hell she got caught and you might make her work for a living. Set a date. Say by the end of summer you need to be out, by xyz date (somewhere in the middle) she needs a car. If she doesn't have a car by the date you set she still needs to be out by the end of the summer. I would not give her phone back but that's up to you. She's a grown up. She isn't getting better. She's getting worse And god forbid she does ever have kids she wouldn't know how to take care of them because she can't take care of herself. There's a gray area between pressing charges and letting her continue to walk all over you. You and your husband are the only ones who will make this happen. She obviously isn't going to do it. Find your gray area that you are comfy with and get the stress out of your life and enjoy YOUR freedom. [/QUOTE]
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